Having A Birthday Around The Holidays Is An Unfair Situation

Having A Birthday Around The Holidays Is An Unfair Situation

Having your birthday around the holiday season comes with more difficulties than one would think.
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One's birthday is supposed to be all about them. It’s supposed to be a day to celebrate their life. However, if you’re like me, then you know that sometimes your birthday can be overshadowed by other events. For me, it’s Christmas, seeing as my birthday is December 11th, exactly two weeks before the major holiday, it’s easy for my day to be overlooked.

Christmas may only be a day, but in America, at least, it's more of a month-long event. The minute Thanksgiving is over, it is automatically Christmas time. People get so caught up in buying gifts, trees, and decorating they neglect other occasions that may lie in-between.

My whole life I have always considered my birthday a ‘Christmas birthday’ simply because every year my house would be decorated for Christmas when my birthday rolled around. I have birthday pictures of my family and I in front of our Christmas tree. If I didn’t tell you, you would think that they were Christmas pictures. Not that I don’t like the Christmas appeal, I would just like to keep it separate from my birthday considering they are both celebrating two separate events.

Now comes the biggie, the two for one gifts. When you have your birthday around the holidays, people, more often than not, want to buy you one gift and tell you “This is your birthday and Christmas gift.” No. That is not how it goes. I mean, unless you get like a car or something of that magnitud,m then its acceptable, but otherwise no.

Now, I’m not trying to sound ungrateful or materialistic, I mean I’m happy with just a chocolate bar for a gift, but it’s the fact in the matter. If my birthday were in July, would you still say that this gift is a two for one? I don’t think so. I get that during the holidays it’s crunch time when it comes to money, but even something small shows the person you care and that you were thinking of them on their day and not for the holiday.

Having your birthday around the holiday season also makes it hard to make plans to do something special for your day. For me, its somewhat easier than say someone born on the 20th, but it still gets difficult. Many people are busy during this season, whether it’s with work to make the extra cash, or planning for the holidays, or even traveling to visit the family for the joyous season. With all these separate agendas it makes it difficult to pin anyone down to a specific time and date to celebrate.

I’m not trying to sound like a Debby downer here or even trying to hate on Christmas, as it’s my favorite holiday, I’m just trying to explain that despite the dates being close, they are not one in the same and people deserve special recognition on their birthday.

Having my birthday around the holidays sucks a lot of the time, but over the years I have been able to work out a system with my family to separate the two. I know having them so close means half of the gifts on each day, which my parents tried to not let that happen, but that’s fine. As long as it is acknowledged separately I’m fine.

For those of you that have the misfortune of being born days before or after Christmas, here’s a little advice. Choose the week before or after your actual birthday to celebrate it. I know its not ideal but this way you get your own celebration that’s not for Christmas as well.

With all that being said, I wouldn’t change my birthday for anything in the world. My family and I have worked out all the kinks over the years and they ensure I get an excellent birthday and excellent Christmas every year and for that I am truly grateful.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
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“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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