This is to everyone out there that is bad at being alone. Because guess what, I’m right there with you. The day you wake up after an ugly break-up, you realize it's just you in your bed. The other side of the mattress is empty.
It seems like all my life I’ve always had someone…someone that I rely too heavily on for my happiness. And that is what is wrong with relationships in our generation. Whatever happened to finding that happiness within ourselves?
First thing is first. What you need to understand is that someone may make you happy, or contribute to your happiness. However, they are not the sole source of your happiness. If you let them hold that authority in your life, I promise that you are going to feel very empty if they ever leave. An emptiness that they once filled will be left empty again, and there will only be darkness.
How did we ever come to letting someone else dictate whether we are happy or not? This life is ours to live, not theirs. It’s really a simple statement, but you are in control of your own thoughts and fate.
Don’t get me wrong, having that special somebody is great. They always want to be around you, you always want to be around them. Simply put, being in a relationship is fun. You never have to wonder if you’re wanted, because they are always right there next to you.
Going through a breakup is never easy. But working on you and being alone doesn’t have to be sad or depressing. Sure, you have to learn how to do life without the one person you once did everything in life with, and that can be hard. But it is possible. Let me tell you how.
Be around people.
If there’s one thing I’ve found after losing a significant other, it’s that being around people really helps, whether it's friends, family, or co-workers. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and want to be there for you. Being physically alone is a lot harder than being mentally alone. Not having that someone doesn’t mean you have nobody at all.
Discover what really makes you happy.
Everyone has a passion or love for something – running, fishing, crafting, cooking, or whatever. Sometimes it takes more dedication of time to reveal it. Your hobby is out there, find it. Solitude is the best time to connect with your inner self and find peace.
Listen to music.
There’s a song out there for everything. Sometimes just lying down and listening to a melody and the right words can make you feel at peace.
Realize that being single is never a bad thing.
Think about it. Being on your own is a lot better than being in a bad relationship. The only person you have to rely on is you. Relationships are work. Take advantage of the time where the only person you have to worry about is you.
