I've always been the girl to hang out with guys more than I hang out with girls.

It's not intentional- it's just something that has happened much of my life. I'm not involved with any of them, nor have I ever turned a guy friend into a boyfriend. However, I have had some interesting information come into light.

Lately, I've been told by several guy friends of mine, that upon first meeting me, they were more interested in dating me than they were 'just being friends.' I felt bad for unintentionally putting them in the friend zone, but honestly, it was a better option for both of us.

I'm the girl who makes a better friend than girlfriend.

I have a lot of guy friends. It's not that I don't get along with girls, I do, but at the same time, I'm just more comfortable with a guy group of friends. There's a little less drama, and it's a little bit better of an environment for me. The drama I do encounter with my guy friends is that sometimes, if they haven't been friends with me for a long time, they might start to think of me in a non-platonic way. I don't think it's a vibe I'm giving off- I'm typically found with no makeup on, and in adidas pants and a t-shirt. I don't think I'm flirty- I know I'm not touchy, and I try not to insinuate that anything will happen. However, it's been a pattern that some of my guy friends with think of me as more of having 'girlfriend' potential than 'female friend' status.

So, if you're one of my guy friends, and you start to have feelings for me, please stop and think about what I said a paragraph before- that I'm a better friend than I would be a girlfriend. At this point in my life, I don't want a boyfriend- I'm way too focused on school, and what I want to do in life. If I was in a relationship, I know that it would start with some major issues- I tend to go on binge studying sessions and not talk to anyone for a few days. I have a lot of guy friends, and I know that may be an issue with a lot of guys. I cry all of the time, and it would be exhausting, trying to console and reason with me. (Even though a lot of my crying comes from watching Disney movies) I like to be alone more than I like to hang out with people, and I'm definitely not cuddly. I'm terrified of commitment, and run from anything that even resembles a romantic relationship. I'm not ready in my life to start thinking about settling down, and it's not fair to put that on anyone I know right now.

Maybe within the next year, or five, or ten, I'll meet someone who changes this. But right now, I'm going to make a lot better of a friend. As a friend, I won't make you listen to all of my issues and ask you to solve my problems. I won't get jealous if you decide not to hang out with me so you can hang out with your friends- because I'm just a friend as well. It'll be normal not to hear from me for a bit, and it won't be concerning. As a friend, and not a girlfriend, I can be your wing woman, and help you talk to girls. I'll try not to cry in front of you, and I won't get mad if you get so wasted that you need me to take care of you. That's what friends are for.

I'm not saying that I'll be a bad girlfriend, it just isn't what I want right now. If I put you in the 'friend zone,' it's because I want you in my life as a stable figure- and I don't see a romantic relationship as being very stable for me. So before you feel anything, remember that I have labeled myself as a better friend than a girlfriend- and that it's me- not you.