Best Big Littles In The Game

Best Big Littles In The Game

What it's like having two littles.

Being a sister in a sorority comes with a lot of responsibilities and tasks. I'm a sophomore in the sorority Alpha Epsilon Phi and the new pledge class was just recently initiated on Thursday, April 5th. This is a very exciting time for all chapters at the University of Delaware. Besides becoming a new member of your sorority, there are many other fun events that take place.

One being big little reveal.

During the pledging of Alpha Epsilon Phi, the new pledge class asks the pledge class above them to go on "girl dates." Girl dates signify the bonding and getting to know the new sisters and each other. Girl dates can be one on one or in groups and can happen anywhere such as Perkins Student Center, coffee cafes on Main Street, and anywhere else on campus.

After a few weeks of girl dating and getting to know the new pledge class, the girls get a feel of who they want as their little, or in some cases "littles." Sometimes, if the incoming pledge class is bigger than the one above, there are twins. This year, the new pledge class has 11 more girls, meaning five sets of twins.

After going on many girl dates myself, I was lucky enough to find not one, but two girls who I met and hit it off with. I spent time with the both of them separately, and couldn't imagine not having both of them as my littles. I couldn't even form a thought if they were someone else's littles. No thank you!

I talked to my big Sydney Gropack, g-big, Sydney Cohen, and their pledge moms for some advice. My g-big is a twin herself and gave some inspiration words to me. "Whatever you choose will be great! If you have two littles, it will be double the fun! You'll have two girls who look up to you and that's so nice! But if you only want one then that's also okay! Either way it'll be amazing so just go with your gut." After hearing this, I put a halt to my indecisiveness and went for what I wanted, these two amazing, sweet, and perfect young ladies: Daniela Carillo and Victoria Sedgh.

Most others who are about to become bigs only want one little. Yes, it is nice to put your focus on only one person, however, after going through this process I am happy they both looked up to me and loved me enough to both put me first as their bigs. I have been thrilled since the day I found out. Having both of these girls makes this experience in the sorority ten times better.

Luckily, I did a great job because they love each other just as much as I hope they would, and maybe even more. They are beyond happy to have one another for a good laugh, a shoulder to cry on, and everything in between. I am such a beaming "mother" to have these perfect ladies as my littles, and will definitely be worth the ride.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.

Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.

Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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This Is What Being Away From Home Taught Me About My Home

... It's ok to make plans with people besides your mom.


My home, for as long as I can remember, has been my safe haven. No matter how many arguments my family and I got into, I always knew my home to be a place where I could feel safe, at peace, grounded, and most importantly, comfortable.

This is why, when I decided to embark on a journey to Israel, 6,000 miles away felt like I was traveling into space. I felt as if I couldn't move forward without my mom by my side, reminding me everything is going to be okay. The relationship that my mom and I have is a special one, and knowing that I was not in close proximity to her created much-unwanted anxiety for us both. Knowing that while she may have only been a phone call away, that she wouldn't be able to come hold me if I needed her to, was something I really struggled with.

While I was away, I had hoped that my excitement for the trip and the adventures that were to come would keep me grounded and sane. Unfortunately, as the days went on, I became more and more homesick. However, I was able to learn some really important lessons in terms of the importance of my home, and sometimes the need to escape it.

The new friendships I made showed me that sometimes it's okay to make plans with people besides your mom (only partially joking).

The new foods I tried showed me that there are so many different types of foods that my chef of a mother hasn't even heard of.

The new experiences showed me just how important it is to step out of my comfort zone, even if doing so means I have to be 6,000 miles away from the comfort of my mom's arms.

There are hundreds of thousands of things that this trip has taught me, but it especially taught me that life exists away from your home as well. While it is natural to want to stay close to the things that bring you comfort, it is also essential that you allow yourself to grow.

I couldn't be luckier to have had such an incredible experience abroad, but I also couldn't be luckier to have been able to come home to a mom that was waiting with open arms and open ears.

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