"You don't go there as often, and you don't stay there as long"

The best piece of advice I've ever received has come from my "mom". A mother who didn't have to mother me, but chose to despite not being my mother. Her advice over the years has not always been so greatly appreciated but has been told to me not because I wanted to hear it, but because I needed it.

You don't go there as often...whatever that is for you. Mine personally is thinking that I'm a failure. I struggle with trying to reach perfection. The point is to not go "there" as often. The point of the statement is to try not to go to your struggle as often. I try not to go "there" as often. I don't fall back on common statements like "I'm a failure", "I'm so stupid", and "I never do anything right".

And you don't stay there as long...wherever that is for you. I don't sit in my unsuccessfulness. I try not to dwell on what has happened for too long. I don't beat myself up as often when I mess up. I try to set goals I can reach and are manageable instead of overwhelming myself.

I don't go to failure statements as often, and I don't stay in my unsuccessfulness as long. This statement is more for encouragement because it is true. I truly do not go to my failure statements as often, and I truly do not stay in my unsuccessfulness as long. This struggle does not have the hold on me that it did 3 years ago.

So whatever your place is, wherever you're staying too long - you're not stuck there. The little progress you may be making has to count. Even if it's small, and it's hard to see. It's there. When you fall back into whatever is it is you go to, this advice will be waiting for you. To tell you that "you haven't gone there as often, and you didn't stay there as long" as you did before.