Best 6 Tips For First Date Success

Best 6 Tips For First Date Success

Few first date tips that are guaranteed to go over better than a standard flower gift that you just plucked off the side of the road.
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Need a few first date dating tips? Even the seasoned dating pros need a few relationships tips to get the ball rolling smoothly. There are lots of free dating sites that offer online dating tips and online dating information, but not many that address the issue of what to do when you actually meet for that first date.

First of all, being nervous is normal. Even if your date seems calm and collected, chances are they are secretly as nervous as you are. That’s good. That’s what makes a first date exciting! So, still a little worried about what you should do, where you should go, or how should you act on a first date? Here are few first date tips that are guaranteed to go over better than a standard flower gift that you just plucked off the side of the road.

Be Creative

Make sue you take the time to think the whole night through. “Winging it” is never a good plan. It tells your date that you didn’t care enough about this first date to make it worth your while.

The standard 2 hour movie is not a good way to get acquainted. You need to talk face to face without an on-screen explosion getting in the way. A dinner is always nice, but can leave one feeling like they have to be a chatter-box in order to keep the dialogue up. The best solution is a low-stress daytime meeting (like a lunch or coffee). This way, you can both make it a short commitment and you can both get acquainted in a very “non-date” atmosphere. Plus, you both get to eat! Check the internet to find some local café’s or lunch restaurants.

Want to get more creative? Try the zoo for a first date. Sound too weird? Think about it. You get to stroll around at a leisurely pace, you get to look and talk about a lot of fascinating things around you (the animals). This will give you lots to talk about instead of mindless chatter or more serious discussions like, “What happened to your last relationship.” Plus, you can leave anytime you like, so there’s no pressure to “ride out” the date if you both don’t like it.

Not a zoo person? No problem. Get creative and find events or locations that have enough going on to stimulate conversation. That’s the most important thing. Don’t worry so much about trying to “entertain” on your fist date, worry about creating an atmosphere where you both can simply talk.

What to Wear

Wear clothes that make you feel good.

You want to dress to impress, but above all BE YOURSELF. You don’t need to wear a suit if you don’t wear one on a regular basis, and you don’t need to dress “cheap” in order to get some attraction. Your date is sizing you up on what may be the only time you meet, so make sure your clothes reflect who you really are.

Keeping that in mind, don’t show up in a tank top and sandals (unless you’re going to the beach, of course!). Make sure your clothes are clean, neat, and pressed (this means no holes or stains). New clothes can help, but again, don’t try so hard to impress your date, unnatural attire will stick out like a sore thumb.

Make sure your date feels comfortable

Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him. And when you say it, be sincere. Don’t just flatter for the sake of flattery, find something about your date that you truly want to compliment. This will earn big brownie-points with your date.

Manners and Kindness

Good manners are always in style. Don’t think you are too cool to say please and thank you. Even if your date goes poorly, always thank your date for coming out with you.

Be courteous and attentive to your date. Don’t let your eyes wander (don’t say you couldn’t help it! You’re an adult, use some self-control!), and don’t flirt with anyone but your date.

Make sure you do an equal amount of listening as you do talking. No one likes a chatter-box who only talks about themselves. You’re both there to learn about each other. Part of learning is listening.

Attitudes and Habits - Stay Positive

Don't complain on a first date. I don’t care if you complain all day long. Your first date shouldn’t be one negative comment after another. Find things that are going well on your date and point them out.

Don’t drink too much. If you know you get a little “weird” after a few drinks, exhibit some restraint and don’t drink too much. You may think you’re charming after a few, but your date will only see a dribbling fool.

Now for some first date ideas:

Take a class together

Wine-tasting

Photography

Ever watch the TV show, “Blind Date?” They do just about everything under the sun. Watch a few episodes. Get some ideas. Be creative. Have fun. And don’t forget, ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!

Good luck!

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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.
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Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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To The Friend I Rarely See Anymore

I wish you nothing but the best.

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When we graduated high school, we thought it was the end for us. The distance would ruin us and we wouldn't be able to call ourselves friends. Thankfully, you were my rock for the first year of school. You were the one I turned to when the adjustment was hard or when I needed someone to talk to and just listen. We never lost our connection for a whole year. We proved that nothing could pull us apart no matter how far the distance, no matter the different schedules. We were still best friends.

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Now summer ended, we didn't think twice about losing our connection this time. We had a bond stronger than anyone could fathom. We once again went our separate ways and kept our texting and Snapchat habits.

But something changed.

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We may have gone our separate ways like we never imagined, but I am happy you are finally happy. Don't forget for one second that I will always be here for you. I will still always answer your text. I will still always be your shoulder to cry on even when no one else is there for you. I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope you're doing ok.

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