Best 6 Tips For First Date Success

Best 6 Tips For First Date Success

Few first date tips that are guaranteed to go over better than a standard flower gift that you just plucked off the side of the road.
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Need a few first date dating tips? Even the seasoned dating pros need a few relationships tips to get the ball rolling smoothly. There are lots of free dating sites that offer online dating tips and online dating information, but not many that address the issue of what to do when you actually meet for that first date.

First of all, being nervous is normal. Even if your date seems calm and collected, chances are they are secretly as nervous as you are. That’s good. That’s what makes a first date exciting! So, still a little worried about what you should do, where you should go, or how should you act on a first date? Here are few first date tips that are guaranteed to go over better than a standard flower gift that you just plucked off the side of the road.

Be Creative

Make sue you take the time to think the whole night through. “Winging it” is never a good plan. It tells your date that you didn’t care enough about this first date to make it worth your while.

The standard 2 hour movie is not a good way to get acquainted. You need to talk face to face without an on-screen explosion getting in the way. A dinner is always nice, but can leave one feeling like they have to be a chatter-box in order to keep the dialogue up. The best solution is a low-stress daytime meeting (like a lunch or coffee). This way, you can both make it a short commitment and you can both get acquainted in a very “non-date” atmosphere. Plus, you both get to eat! Check the internet to find some local café’s or lunch restaurants.

Want to get more creative? Try the zoo for a first date. Sound too weird? Think about it. You get to stroll around at a leisurely pace, you get to look and talk about a lot of fascinating things around you (the animals). This will give you lots to talk about instead of mindless chatter or more serious discussions like, “What happened to your last relationship.” Plus, you can leave anytime you like, so there’s no pressure to “ride out” the date if you both don’t like it.

Not a zoo person? No problem. Get creative and find events or locations that have enough going on to stimulate conversation. That’s the most important thing. Don’t worry so much about trying to “entertain” on your fist date, worry about creating an atmosphere where you both can simply talk.

What to Wear

Wear clothes that make you feel good.

You want to dress to impress, but above all BE YOURSELF. You don’t need to wear a suit if you don’t wear one on a regular basis, and you don’t need to dress “cheap” in order to get some attraction. Your date is sizing you up on what may be the only time you meet, so make sure your clothes reflect who you really are.

Keeping that in mind, don’t show up in a tank top and sandals (unless you’re going to the beach, of course!). Make sure your clothes are clean, neat, and pressed (this means no holes or stains). New clothes can help, but again, don’t try so hard to impress your date, unnatural attire will stick out like a sore thumb.

Make sure your date feels comfortable

Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him. And when you say it, be sincere. Don’t just flatter for the sake of flattery, find something about your date that you truly want to compliment. This will earn big brownie-points with your date.

Manners and Kindness

Good manners are always in style. Don’t think you are too cool to say please and thank you. Even if your date goes poorly, always thank your date for coming out with you.

Be courteous and attentive to your date. Don’t let your eyes wander (don’t say you couldn’t help it! You’re an adult, use some self-control!), and don’t flirt with anyone but your date.

Make sure you do an equal amount of listening as you do talking. No one likes a chatter-box who only talks about themselves. You’re both there to learn about each other. Part of learning is listening.

Attitudes and Habits - Stay Positive

Don't complain on a first date. I don’t care if you complain all day long. Your first date shouldn’t be one negative comment after another. Find things that are going well on your date and point them out.

Don’t drink too much. If you know you get a little “weird” after a few drinks, exhibit some restraint and don’t drink too much. You may think you’re charming after a few, but your date will only see a dribbling fool.

Now for some first date ideas:

Take a class together

Wine-tasting

Photography

Ever watch the TV show, “Blind Date?” They do just about everything under the sun. Watch a few episodes. Get some ideas. Be creative. Have fun. And don’t forget, ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!

Good luck!

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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My 'Boyfriend Standards' List Hasn't Changed Since I Was 14, And Thank God For That

And I found a man that matches every one of them.

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When I was a freshman in high school, I bought my first journal and the first thing I did in it was write down a pretty extensive list of everything a man who wanted to date me had to possess.

Call me picky, call me extra, but I'd say it was one of the smartest things I did as a fourteen year old. Not only did it make me sit down and actually think about what I desired in a partner but it also made me acknowledge what my time, love, and attention was worth. Throughout high school I didn't date a single guy.

First year of college I met a guy, we were best friends, everyone convinced us we'd be so cute together, so we dated.

But not for long. He met a couple of my standards but definitely not all of them. I was really just an excited freshman who said, "why not go for it? We're already best friends!?" After we broke up, I dug out my now 4 year old journal and opened up to the first page. I read down the list and realized how none of those desires changed and how far he was from the list as a whole. I decided to stick to the list until I came across a man who embodied every bullet point.

- Christian/Catholic

- Sense of Humor

- Cares about personal appearance and hygiene

- Caring and selfless

- Athletic

- Smart

- Responsible

- Someone I'm able to completely open up to

- Chaste

- Sweet and loving

- Someone who treats me like the best and most precious gift from God

- Someone who never fails to make me laugh, smile, and enjoy life.

- Someone who prays with me

- Someone who never fails to amaze me with the way he cares for others and teaches others

- Someone who leads me closer to God

- Goofy

- Understanding

- Pursues me every day

Kinda well thought out huh? Kinda also really long huh? Like there's no way someone could match all of my boyfriend requirements right? Wrong. When you hold to your worth and demand nothing less, when you cling to Christ and pray that He reads your hearts desires, and when you let Him take control, he'll prove His perfect plan and providence in unlikely ways.

I found a man who is God fearing and a truth seeker.

A man who has the goofiest most dad-joke sense of humor ever. Someone who always looks presentable (maybe that's the Marines in him). A man who is so caring and selfless time and time again. Someone who is athletic and who I can compete with at the gym. Someone who has wisdom and is smart and responsible. I found a man who I can open up to and let all of my guards down. Someone who seeks a chaste life and relationship with me. A man who is sweet and loving and who respects me and holds me up as a daughter of the King. Someone who makes me laugh the most, even in inappropriate scenarios. A man that will pray with me and for me. I found a man who constantly looks out for others, lends a helping hand, and wills to educate those he can.

He leads me closer to Christ daily, understands me better than anyone, and pursues me day in and day out.

I didn't know this man existed almost 8 years ago when I first wrote out this list. But my standards didn't waiver, and if they did, the relationship failed. Holding to this list made me hold onto hope that the desires in my heart were not only mine, they were Christ's for me as well.

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