I once read bits and pieces of a book that my mom showed me called "This I Believe," a collection of essays written by a variety of people on their core values. It really resonated with me, and for years the subject has been stewing in my mind. Having grown up in a religious household, when I hear "values," I think "religion." Even within one sect or denomination, I don't think anyone has 100% identical opinions. What is shared is the core of these values, what my mom calls the "meat and potatoes" of a religion. To her, the "meat and potatoes" of her belief is that Jesus was the son of god, died on the cross, and rose again three days late. Even agreeing with this, it is not my core value. It is not my "meat and potatoes." This I believe:

I believe that what is most important in our lives is how we nurture ourselves and others. Catholicism a huge part of my upbringing and who I have become. If you still don't understand how deeply it becomes engrained in a person's mind, just read this text exchange:

But while religion was a big part of my life growing up, I think the biggest influence on my values was my own humanity. It killed me growing up to hear from anyone that someone was "going to hell" based on their beliefs or lack thereof. Who are you to tell right from wrong? Who are you to condemn them for following the beliefs they were raised in, just as you most likely did? I can't bring myself to believe that our religious beliefs are the be-all end-all of our existence. I believe that we are so much more.

I believe that any religion is real and valid if it accomplishes the goal of bringing people together and providing members with a sense of peace.

I not only accept but applaud any religion or group that works to ensure that its members and humanity as a whole love happier and healthier lives.

I believe that to help others you must first help yourself.

I believe that sexuality, gender, and religious identity do not automatically define a person's morality or worth.

I believe the biggest defining factor of a person's character is how they treat those from whom they have nothing to gain.

I believe that there is inherent value every person, regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, or social status.

I believe that my life will not be boiled down to how I prayed or who I worshipped but how I showed love and service to those around me.

I believe that when it comes down to it, the most important thing in life is to work to ensure that yourself and those around you are, as my grandparents often say, "happy, healthy, safe, and wise."

This is my "meat and potatoes." This I believe.