I've always seen the good in people, believing in the best of them, seeing the potential they have to be. I want to be nice to others because you never know what someone else is going through and how much simple words or actions can affect them. Being mean does not accomplish anything, and people don't want to be friends with mean.
Being the nice girl means that people know you will always be there no matter what, literally, anytime and any day, even when they don't deserve it. It's hard to say no. People will come to you with everything and all their baggage. They know you'll make their problems, yours so that you can fix them. While yes you should care, it becomes dangerous when everything is on your shoulders. And when you need someone they may only do the bare minimum to help.
Being the nice girl means caring too much even when people hurt you. People will break your heart. They will lie to your face and guilt you into doing things you are against. People will use you. You can be like a toy on a shelf they pick up and play with when they want.
Being the nice girl means that people will take advantage of you. You can't stand when people don't like you or are on bad terms with you, so you put in so much extra effort into everyone. You are willing to go out of your way for others who would not do the same.
Being the nice girl means you will get walked on by both girls and guys. Guys will mess with your feelings and emotions. Girls and guys can become fake friends, using you at their convenience and never really getting to know the real you. These "friends" will always be asking for more from you: solving their problems, getting involved in situations you'd rather avoid, spend more money on them, do their work, etc. People know no matter how they may treat you, you are always kind back and there for them in the end.
"Being the nice girl leads to broken trusts, broken friendships, heartache, unneeded stress, distress upon your physical, mental, and emotional health, unfair or dishonest words, and all in all, hell that nobody deserves."
While being the nice girl means there's a lot of great qualities about you, don't let yourself become a doormat. You deserve so much more. Know your surroundings, your true friends. Stand up for yourself, it's OK to learn to say no.
