As someone who has been single for a few years now, I have learned a lot of things on my own that perhaps I didn't know when I was young and foolish. When it comes to being in high school, I think that sometimes, as girls, we desperately want that relationship that every other girl wish she had. We want that romantic relationship that we see in movies and TV shows or maybe everything we really want is the companion of someone else.

Before I started dating I remember telling myself that "Boys aren't my priority but having a boyfriend wouldn't hurt either!" I was in high school and wanted to feel like I was growing up and becoming an actual teenager. What teenage girl doesn't want a boyfriend?? However, when you are in high school you are immature. Relationships don't always work out and often they just never really end well or on the note that you would want them to. A few years down the line you realize your mistakes and where you went wrong and sometimes you wish you could go back and change it but realize that its way too late for that. Which was MY case, at least.

I personally believe that when you end a relationship it is always important to give it some time before you begin another one. Give yourself the time to heal and really sort out where you stand after. Perhaps it was an easy break-up and you're ready to have fun or you're totally heartbroken and need the time to grief and hurt. Whichever might be your case, it is okay to go through the different emotions. It takes some time to really process how you are feeling after a break-up. You might not want to show it and make it noticeable that it hurt you, but know that being single again does not mean you won't be able to find someone new again.

When you're single again you discover new things about yourself that you didn't know before. I feel like when you are in a relationship, sometimes one can focus so much time on their significant other and not enough time on themselves. Now having all that free time for yourself you can try that new sport that you really wanted to do without having to worry whether you would have enough time spent with your boyfriend. Now, I'm not saying it's a bad thing! We are all different and manage our time differently as well.

I have been asked multiple times "But don't you miss having that special someone?" and the answer is yes.

I do sometimes but I have been alone for quite a while to know now that I don't need a "special someone" to be happy in life. Regardless of whether I have somebody or not, I am happy and that's all that really matters to me. I think being single has personally really help me. I have matured, I have grown as an individual, and above all have really changed my mentality of what a relationship should be like. When I was younger, I would have done anything possible to have a relationship like the movies and make it very publicly known that I was taken! But now, I much rather keep my relationship status private because I have learned that as long as my significant other and I make each other feel special within each other, the world doesn't have to know but us.

That was cheesy, I know but it's very true!

Being a single lady opens up your eyes so much especially once you start growing up. You are independent, you have so much time for yourself that you can always try and check off the things of your very own bucket list! You explore the world without having to worry about anything. You try new things and even shock yourself and learn new things about yourself that you didn't know before. So no, you won't be "forever alone" just temporarily. But even then you will have your own company and what's better than knowing that you got your own back? So smile and be your own happiness!