There Is Nothing Worse Than Being Called Shy Everywhere You Go

There Is Nothing Worse Than Being Called Shy Everywhere You Go

Being called out for being shy all the time is the worst, I do not want to be reminded how different I am.


Being so shy is never a decision, it is a reaction. Someone who is shy does not have to be shy all the time, it could be only when your around new people or people you are uncomfortable around. There is that slight fear of being who you truly are. So many factors could be the result of never over-coming this shyness you had as a child, or for developing it as you get older. Here is my story of dealing with this throughout my whole life.

If you used to be kind of outgoing and not giving a care in the world as a kid, then that is something you probably dream to have back again. It may not be that easy to get that back. As a kid, you do not have to worry about other people because nobody cares if you are different or if you do something stupid. That was always the best time of my life for sure. I was a little closed off as a kid, but I was not always alone, and I liked to meet new people occasionally if someone I knew was with me. That changed drastically once middle school started.

Everyone knows middle school is the worst years of your life. It is during the awkward stages of our lives where we all think we are better than the others and when people start to develop an ego. It's also where we all find out who our true friends are and who decides to not want to hang out with you anymore. I was always scared of speaking my mind ever since middle school because that was when all my classmates decided it was okay to criticize people on every little thing, like their weight or clothes, etc. I thought that I would be safe if I never talked to any of them and stuck to myself, now I wish I got out there more and made some new friends before high school came.

In high school, it started to get a little better for me. I was talking a little more, but I would never start conversations, I would let people be the first person to talk. This was also when people started to point out that I am shy. I started to work as a lifeguard, which was not something I thought I'd ever do since I'm not one to talk to strangers let alone yell at them to follow rules. I would go to work and at least once every shift I had one of my coworkers would mention how I am so quiet and shy. I tried not to show it on my face, but those words would hurt me.

I hate being called out for being shy because I don't choose to be this way.

Once I was able to understand things going on in the world around me, I always heard about people making fun of others behind their backs and I never wanted that to happen to me, so I thought it would be best to not talk to anyone, so they had nothing bad to say about me. Once college started, I became a little more open and am talking to a few more people than I used to be.

I wish people would finally understand that I did not choose to be this way, this was how I was brought into this world. You should never feel ashamed of who you are, so do not ever let what people say about you get to your head.

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40 Small Things That Make College Students Happy

It doesn't take much...

1. When class is canceled.

2. When the coffee shop you stop at five minutes before your 8 a.m. has a short line.

3. Coffee, coffee, coffee.

4. Open note tests.

5. Or even better, take home tests.

6. The unofficial assigned seating process that that takes place after the first week or so of classes.

7. Thursday nights. (because in college, Thursday qualifies as the weekend.)

8. Sales.

9. Or once again, even better, free things.

10. Specifically free food.

11. Dogs.

12. Dogs on campus.

13. Tailgates and Saturday afternoon football games.

14. Finding an already completed Quizlet for your exam.

15. Having an extra 30 minutes for a nap, and if you're lucky, an hour.

16. Netflix.

17. When your roommate takes out the trash.

18. Weekends after test weeks.

19. The rare blessing of a curve on an exam.

20. Getting out of class early.

21. How in college, it is socially expectable to wear a t-shirt everyday.

22. Being able to walk from class to class or eat in the dining hall without having to see anyone you know. (and thank goodness too because you probably don't look too good.)

23. Crossing things off of your to-do list.

24. Your best-friends that you make in college.

25. A full tank of gas.

26. Seeing a new face everyday.

27. Crawling back into bed after your 8 or 9 a.m. (or after any class that ends with a.m.)

28. Care packages.

29. No cover charges.

30. When adults tell you that it is okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life yet. (regardless of what parents or your advisor may say.)

31. Pizza.

32. Finding out you weren't the only one who did poorly on the exam.

33. Deciding not to buy the textbook, and never needing it.

34. Finding the perfect gif to express how you're feeling. (Michael Scott just get it.)

35. Weekends at home because...

36. Pets.

37. Mom's home cooked pie and Dad's steak dinners,

38. Spring Break.

39. Road trips.

40. When it finally starts to cool down outside so you can show up to class dry instead of dripping in sweat.

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Everyone Should Experience Working In Fast Food Or Retail

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it.


I know these jobs aren't glamorous. In fact, most days I looked forward to clocking out before I had even clocked in. I always secretly rolled my eyes when an angry customer droned on and on about how entitled he or she was. Though I can name a lot of bad things that happened on the job, it wasn't all horrible. As I reflect on my time working in fast food, I realize how much having that job really taught me and how grateful I am to have had that experience. I really think everyone should work in fast food or retail at some point, and here's why:

You make some great friends from work. I get it, sometimes your co-workers are royal jerks or flat out creeps. You see your name on the schedule next to theirs and immediately try switching with someone else. I've been there. However, I have worked with some amazing people as well.

Every time I worked with one girl in particular, we laughed for entire shifts. One night, we were singing the national anthem at the top of our lungs without realizing a customer had come in (to our surprise, she applauded our terrible screaming). Another coworker and I turned up the radio on full blast when business was slow and had dance battles. We made the most of our shifts, and I still talk to some of these people today.

You learn how to deal with difficult people. It's the age-old story: the uppity customer thinks twelve dollars for a meal combo is outrageous and Where is your manager?!

My friend and I were once called stupid and a customer said he would never come back to our restaurant to eat ever again. At the moment, we were scared out of our minds because we were both pretty new to the job. As time passed, we became more patient and tolerant and knew what triggered these particular customers. Dealing with these adversities definitely helps in the long run, particularly when it comes to doing group work with people who seem unbearable.

Your people skills increase by a landslide. I had always thought that I was great with people before I had a job. However, when I found myself in situations where I had to talk to strangers, I would grow nervous and stumble across my words from time to time. Working in an environment where communicating with others is a driving force helped me not only with improving my public speaking, but also made me more outgoing. In situations where I once backed into the corner to avoid having to talk to someone, I now take charge and initiate a conversation.

You establish a connection with regular customers. My favorite customer was named Jack. He was the sweetest old man who came in every Wednesday and Friday and bought food for himself and his wife. I quickly memorized his order, which impressed him. We shared pleasantries every time he came in, and my coworkers and I looked forward to seeing him.

Establishing a relationship with people who come in a lot helps immensely when it comes to working. It also provides a sense of accomplishment when you memorize an order. Not to mention, the customers start to like you and typically leave a generous tip!

You have stories to tell for a lifetime! Sometimes bad things happen at work. Once I was holding a hot pan and burned my arm— I still have the burn mark on my arm to prove it. My point is, it sucked at the moment, but now I look back and laugh.

One time I asked my coworker how to make soup and she replied, "Slowly, but beautifully." It was so nonchalant that I cracked up for hours. There was also a time when a customer asked me for outlandish toppings and condiments that we didn't offer. The craziest story, though, was the drug deal that went down in our public restrooms. My coworker and I obviously could not leave our station and follow these people into the bathroom, so we were pretty much defenseless. Nobody got hurt or anything, so it made for a great story.

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it. It made me more independent and outgoing and gave me memories I'll never forget.

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