Not every person is going to like you, and that is okay. Not every girl is going to want to be your friend, and not every guy is going to want to date you. Once you realize that, your life will be so much easier and happier.
It is hard to recognize what is healthy in our generation. Most communication between people is through technology, and we rarely know how to socially interact in person. We base our social relationships off of top friends on Snapchat, who posts a picture with whom on Instagram, and who text messages whom first—and the amount of time between messages matters. It is all so ridiculous, but we abide by those social norms and expectations.
Speaking of expectations, we expect way too much out of others. We expect our friends to be perfect and always there for us, and we also expect every romantic relationship to be perfect. But guess what? There is no such thing as 'perfect!' People are going to let you down and people are going to lose your trust, that is the way of life. But just because that is the way life is doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. You don't have to be okay with being let down and rejection. It is an awful feeling.
I am now 21 years old and have finally come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to like me. It is hard to recognize when a friendship is not the best. In order to realize that, you need to look at the relationship from the outside in. You need to be rejected or hurt in order to see it. Then, by that time, you wonder why you wasted your time on people who don't matter.
When it comes to guys, I am done playing games. Like I said before, I am 21 years old and do not want to waste my time. I hate being confused, I hate the limbo stage of relationships, and I am not a fan of being a "thing." That doesn't mean I don't like to have fun and go on dates, but I do want to know if you like me or not. So, I have finally become brave enough to ask guys up front if they like me. My life has been so much easier. I can confidentially say that I have been rejected by two guys thus far. I asked them straight up, and told them that I had feelings for them. I was rejected. I have grown so much from those rejections and never felt embarrassed. Not everyone is going to like you in life, you just need to come to terms with that.
Having friendships that are negative is miserable. If you never know if they are gossiping behind your back, if you never feel fully supported, and if you cannot trust them, it may be time to move on. If a guy doesn't seem fully interested or can't commit his feelings to you, then move on. Do not waste your time. It never hurts to ask for the truth, and if you get rejected, join the club—it really isn't all that bad! Be strong and stand up for what is right for you. No one needs "friends" like that and no one needs to get their heart broken over a f**kboy. Invest in those who invest in you.
