Being in an emotional relationship is always hard to see when you're the one in it. People around you may be able to tell you to run from your significant other, but you can't seem understand why. In your eyes, this person is amazing, genuine, honest, trusting, etc... how could he ever hurt you? I mean he has never laid a hand on you...he has never physically hurt you. So why are people telling you that he is abusing you, when in your eyes, he hasn't physically abused you. But what If I told you that if he has ever belittled, degraded, made you feel worthless that he did abuse you. Yes, not physically, but emotionally.

According to Urban Dictionary:

"Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased."

If there is emotional abuse in a relationship, the person who is receiving the abuse may become accustomed to the abuse, in which they believe this type of relationship is "normal." They do not notice the little things that may be telling them to run away, or to get out! There are many signs that one may notice if they look from another perspective.

Would you believe that you may be in an emotional abusive relationship? Probably not. Once you are in the abuse it's hard to see it for yourself. You believe everyone else is the crazy one. Your significant other is too perfect, the other people must be the crazy ones. However, there are signs that can potentially save you from your current relationship that may be "normal" to you, but others see clearly that you're being abused.

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In the beginning of the relationship, your significant other tends to get jealous over every guy/girl you hangout with or talk to. At first, you think it's cute that they are jealous, however, as the relationship goes on, the jealousy starts to take a toll on your relationship.

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Your significant other, or the abuser not only becomes jealous over everything you do, but they will also persuade you that your friends are only bringing you down, that the only friend you need is the abuser. The abuser becomes very possessive. Not only can you not hangout with any of your own friends, the abuser doesn't think your family has your best intentions either. The abuser will want you all to yourself. However, there is a catch, you can be friends with their friends or be with his family, but if it's out of his eye sight then he will get upset, angry at you, and will ignore you for not listening to him.

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Everything you do will never be good enough for the abuser. If you do something that they don't like they will belittle you, degrade you, and manipulate you. Basically you will become the "puppet" to the abuser.

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Not only is the abuser manipulative and possessive, they will also lack support for things that you. If you decide that you want to join a club in school, the abuser may feel that you are betraying them. The club in school may take too much time away from the abuser to control you.

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The abuser wants control over you. They will say/do anything to charm you, then once they have you, they know they can say/ do anything that may hurt you because you know you wouldn't leave them. It is emotionally exhausting for yourself, however, you still think its normal for a relationship to be like this.

Emotional abuse is like a roller coaster. There are many ups and downs that you and the abuser go through. One minute the abuser seems amazing, then the next minute the abuser is ignoring you and upset with you because you decided to go to the gym. There are no wins with an abuser. In order for yourself to get out of the relationship, you must find inner strength and know that you deserve more and can be loved in a way that an emotional abuser cannot love.