Before You Assume, You May Want To Try This Crazy Method Called Asking
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Before You Assume, You May Want To Try This Crazy Method Called Asking

How a Barbie doll has taught me so much about the world we live in.

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Before You Assume, You May Want To Try This Crazy Method Called Asking

So this week was a fun learning curve to say the least.

I had landed myself a free meeting with the principal (at the school in which I work ) because of a picture I had posted about a Barbie doll.

Yes, seriously.

Over a Barbie doll.

Someone who wished to remain “anonymous,” off my “friends” list on Facebook decided to take it upon themselves to report me for this picture. The unidentified deemed this picture too “disturbing” and “very offensive” (as it was described to me) that I would work with children and have a picture such as this on my very private social media page.

I find this sad. Sad that we live in such a world where EVERYTHING is now STEREOTYPED.

EVERYTHING.

I have been stalked. I have been in past abusive relationships, that I wish upon no one. I have Lebanese blood that runs through my veins, does that make me a terrorist?

NO!

I have had some unthinkable things happen to me in my life that I choose not to talk about publicly. I am a very private person. I have my page on very strict privacy settings. I don't accept friend requests from ANYONE I do not know.



I am still happy and I will not let my past define who I am as a person today. My everyday goal is to be a better person today than I was yesterday.


I feel as if ANYONE on my page is someone I would call a genuine friend.


SERIOUSLY.


I would hope that since I know each person on my page PERSONALLY I would have a fairly tight circle of friends. I would like to think they know me particularly well and I would hope (that since we're all adults) they would be able to come and talk to me if they saw or felt anything offensive on my page. I in return would do the same for them as well.


"If you don't ask for the answers, then how do you expect to understand the question?"


Do you get it?


All you had to do was ask me, but instead, you took it upon yourself to make it much more than it ever was.


I feel bad for you. I wish I had that much time to think, but I have to be more quick witted on my end to get it all done in a day, and still remain happy with myself and my choices.


But, I have to say, I am more upset that this person didn't come to me personally, but had to go to someone else to ask me to take it down.


I know there are MANY BAD THINGS in this world. But when you lump things together and just ASSUME things, here are the many things that you miss along the way.

The picture is from my six-year-old. She was trying to create a ZOMBIE BARBIE. She did this all on her own, no prompting from anyone. She enjoys to watch "The Walking Dead" with her dad. She knows ZOMBIES are NOT real. She is very creative. She loves babies and asked me the other day if we could go to the baby store and buy one and how much money they cost. She wants to save all babies in the world who don't have moms and dads. She would like us to adopt more children who don't have families or a home or toys. She likes to do things to bring her art to life. Now her grandparents are unable to see her displays of art who both she gets to see (sparingly) just once a year, for two weeks over the summer months because I (respecting the wishes of others, and possibly at the cost of my job) took this picture down.

I feel bad for you.

Sorry, not sorry.


I am sorry, but I like to find HUMOR in EVERYTHING.


EVERYTHING!


Life is way too short.


You are NEVER PROMISED tomorrow.


NO ONE gets out alive.


Live and be happy. That is what we do in our house.



I don't find it offensive at all, and maybe once you learn the story, you won't either. I find it funny. Maybe I do have an odd sense of humor, but last I knew, that never hurt anyone either.


It's OK to me to think differently than I do, on whatever it is.


I am fine with that, as long as you don't assume and you aren't afraid to ask questions directly to the source. In addition, you are in return not hurting anyone or their character. This is what I love about being a journalist. I am NOT AFRAID to ask the tough questions, straight to the source.


This shows you are willing to understand the other side of things and this can in return help you grow and become more open minded to another side of an argument.


Maybe we can learn something from this Barbie experiment, we can all just be a little more accepting of all various types of people, just like the new Barbie doll has.

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