If you’re anything like me, then on last week’s episode of "The Bachelor," you were confused, angry, but still somehow totally love-struck by Bachelor 20’s Ben Higgins.
I’ve been a Bachelor and Bachelorette fan since current "The Doctors" cast member Dr. Travis Stork was the 8th bachelor about 10 years ago. Never have I ever heard a Bachelor or Bachelorette tell any contestants that they love them before the final episode. But, if you are all caught up on your episodes — you heard Ben say that eight-letter phrase during his season, on the same episode, on two different overnight dates.
The episode started off with great vibes as Caila and Ben go on the first overnight date. Caila is such a sweet girl, not to mention her gorgeous hair and giddy personality as she is totally falling for Ben. Like many other final contestants on the show, she tells Ben she loves him multiple times. After the date ended, I was left confused. Prior to this most recent episode, I didn’t feel like Ben and Caila had a true connection, at least compared to Lauren B. and JoJo. But, after the overnight date I felt like Caila had a chance and that the sparks were actually there. But, later in the episode Ben sends her home, cause he just feels it "isn’t right."
I feel genuinely bad for Caila after watching the next two dates. If he was confident enough before the dates ended to tell two women he loved them back, why didn’t he send Cailia home before the fantasy suite if he didn’t feel the same with her?
Now, along with the empathy I feel for Caila, who is truly better off leaving and finding a relationship that’s meant to be than being with Ben. I feel even more badly for both JoJo and Lauren B. They both think they are going to be picked. Why wouldn’t they? They’re Bachelor fans that are well aware that the traditional way the game works is that you do not hear "I love you too" until you are being picked — therefore, they both think they are being picked. They also both are probably dumbfounded at the idea that Ben is in love with them, and another girl (reason number 542 I could never last as a Bachelor contestant.)
So, my beef with Ben after episode 10 of season 20 is that I kinda think he’s been leading girls on. As if allowing Caila to go to the fantasy suite with him after confessing that she’s is in love with him, without feeling it back isn’t bad enough… or if telling two girls he’s in love with them at the same time didn’t convince you… we can relate back to when Ben sent Becca home earlier in the season. She specifically pulled him aside and asked for him not to blindside her. What did he do? Blindside her and sent her home at a rose ceremony. I have to admit, I could be a little biased because of the love I have and always will for Becca, but still, it wasn’t right.
Despite the anger I have towards Ben after the last episode, I have to admit he has been a compassionate and overall stand-up Bachelor, not to mention good-looking too. So, will it be Lauren B. or JoJo? I guess the final rose will have to tell all on the most dramatic Bachelor finale yet!
