More often than not, when I meet someone and get to know them, there comes that awkward conversation of "wow I thought you were a bitch before I knew you". If I'm the only one, then call me crazy but for all of the reasons people think I'm "a bitch", I'm proud of. Whether it be speaking my mind, or having to suffer from RBF (resting bitch face), I couldn't be prouder of who I am. When I started accepting who I was and "embracing the bitch", I decided I became more confident in who I was because I didn't have to hide anymore. Here're some reasons why people might think you're a bitch, and why you should be prideful of that.

"You Have Such Bad RBF". Everyone has that face that they make when they're not particularly doing anything or thinking of anything... it's called your face. So when people judge me for my RBF I used to take it personally, now I embrace it. When my friends take pictures of me, I over exaggerate my RBF to make the point that in fact- I realize that my face looks like this 90% of the time. I find myself self-conscious about my smile because I either a) have a double chin or b) my eyes are essentially shut, so instead of smiling all the time like a creep, my face is just "resting". Sorry?

"You're Always Speaking Your Opinion". Just being honest. If someone asks for my opinion, I will give it to them, because you know...they asked. A lot of times, after I give my opinion people look at me like I have 5 heads, and like I just murdered their puppy. There are very few things I get heated about. More often than not, these are things that I tend to know a lot about, so if I ever get passionate about something, apparently that comes off as bitchy. I will never tell someone their opinion is wrong, but if it sounds insensitive, I'll be sure to give my two sense to make it known that I don't have the same opinion as you. My bad, I didn't know the first amendment didn't apply to me.

"You're so independent." Apparently, being independent and strong on your own, whether it be in relationships or just on a day to day basis, I've somehow been called a bitch for this. From what I understood, it was a good thing to be your own person and to not be a follower. I've always lived by the phrase "Be yourself, everybody else is taken." If that means I'm a bitch, then c'est la vie.

"You're always giving advice." I would like to think that my friends come to me for advice because they want to hear what I have to say and because they'll listen to this advice. If someone doesn't agree with my advice I do my best to keep it short and simple "you don't have to take my advice, but if you're not going to - I can't help you". This can be seen as bitchy. To be fair, I'd rather point out that I did my best then be completely okay with my advice being ignored when the person most definitely came to me for advice for a reason. I've never been one to give advice when it's not wanted.

"You're like, shy." When I first meet people, I'm not one to open up completely. This can be seen as a "bitch move". Once you get to know me, I'd like to think I'm a little more talkative, but until I have a good understanding of how this friendship/relationship is going to go, I keep to myself. I've always been a "won't speak unless spoken to" kind of gal. I guess a combination of that and my RBF gives off bad vibes..oops.

"You're so angsty". This one is probably my favorite. Because of all of the above things, apparently, I breed "teen angst". Because I like Panic! At the Disco, and 5SOS and every other band that talks about being rejected and about being upset and overcoming your depressing, this makes me angsty. There are hundreds of characters from different TV shows that resonate with me: April from Parks and Rec, Wednesday Addams, Piper from OITNB, Penny from Big Bang Theory, Donna from That 70's Show, the list goes on. Hey, if people want to compare me to girls that have successful acting careers, I'm fine with that.

Now, that I'm done ranting, I'd like to point out that in this day and age, being a bitch isn't necessarily a bad thing. Bitches get stuff done, they speak their mind and are the ones changing the world around them. I used to get offended when people would make comments to me implying that I'm a bitch, now I just smile and say "I know", when one of the above things are said to me. This is not to say that everyone who reads this should go off and start beating up people and justifying themselves for it by saying "embrace the bitch", those are two different things. This is just a topic that I seem to find myself talking about a lot, so I thought I'd write a little bit about me and why I've embraced this quality I seem to possess unintentionally.