I’ll admit it. I am a huge fan of both "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette."

It is great entertainment for us on lookers, however have you ever stopped to think about the many “contestants” of the show?

Let’s start with the obvious here how there is about a thirty to one ratio. How is this emotionally acceptable for both the contestants and the bachelor/bachelorette? The thirty contestants are forced to accept the fact that yes, the people they are living with in one house are ALL dating the same person. On the other end, the bachelor/ bachelorette dates thirty men at once! Traditionally, there should be a one to one ratio in relationships. Think about how much stress a normal relationship might be then multiply that by thirty and that is what the bachelor/bachelorette is going through during the show.

Secondly, when one small thing goes wrong on their dates the relationship will come to a quick end. To point out a specific, on the recent episode of The Bachelorette, Rachel’s date was not ‘touchy feely’ enough even though he explained that in his last relationship he wishes he was more emotional. Even after explaining that, he was sent home. In a real relationship, couples work together through issues, not just cut it off after a little problem.

Thirdly, they treat the journey of "finding love" as a game show. People get eliminated until there is only one person, essentially “the winner” who gets to continue their relationship with the bachelor/bachelorette. In what way is finding a lifelong partner a game to people. It can cause distressing emotional problems knowing that your partner in life had a very hard time choosing between you and the other "finalists."

Fourth, the dates, intimate talks, and pretty much every moment of their relationships has giant cameras, lights, and microphones around them. Half of the people on the show usually are only there for television exposure. And honestly, could you talk about everything you want with your girlfriend/boyfriend with producers and equipment present? I mean they are even there in the hot tub filming them make out, how uncomfortable.

And lastly, since the show is filmed well before it is aired, the remaining couple must hide out, not post anything, and not tell anyone about the outcome. The couple is stuck unable to go out together or spend their life happily until the finale of the show has aired. Even after that the company will strain the new couple with appearances and even offering a special episode of their wedding. This much strain on a new couple can cause fights and eventually lead to separation (think about how many bachelor/bachelorette couples are still together).

So ultimately, this show is distressful for everyone in it, and not even that many couples from the show have their happily ever after. So although it is highly entertaining to watch every Monday night with your best friends maybe even drinking wine (so classy) I feel so bad for the contestants. We all root for who we want to "win" maybe not even realize how hard it would be to take part in this show.