Are You Ready To Be An Independent Adult?

Are You Ready To Be An Independent Adult?

How are you achieving inner growth?
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Ask yourself: Am I, as a college student, doing enough to become independent?


Some college kids, dorming or not, were too sheltered growing up and didn't learn the basic skills people need to take care of themselves. Some of these skills include doing simple tasks such as laundry and cooking.

Cooking may not be completely simple to a beginner, but with enough practice, following recipes and other people's advice, a student can definitely learn how to do it. What happens when there is no meal prepared for you and you have no money? That's what you have to plan for when you are grocery shopping.

Now grocery shopping is yet another skill. You have to know how to pick out fresh fruits, vegetables, and meats: the basics. You need to know how to compare prices in different supermarkets to make sure you are getting as much as you can and at the best quality for the cheapest price, which is something you may learn from your parents.

As for laundry, some students still do not know how to do their own. I've heard from quite a few people in their 20s who still have yet to do their own laundry. At that point is where it gets ridiculous. Someone's inner growth can definitely be hindered by not knowing how to take care of themselves. Learning how to take care of yourself is a lesson you learn your whole life, but if you don't start when you're young it'll only be that much more difficult to be on your own.

The question of the difference between being cared for and sheltered is this: are you able to function without your parents? Your parents will always love you and be there for you, but they will not always be able to take care of you. It is tough to realize, as some people, like me, were thrown into adulthood early. But in the end, the benefit of being young and independent is a lot greater than the struggle to learn how.

Entering adulthood means a lot of more work on your part than you put into your life growing up, but the more independent you become, the more confident you will be. Confidence is developed when you realize you CAN live on your own, and you don't need anybody. That you can count on yourself and that is all you need to do to attain some type of inner happiness.

Inner growth is something you don't realize you develop as you are growing up. We are forced to go to school to get a diploma, but we don't realize that getting your education is another form of self-growth. Some people think of it as a nuisance that everybody is forced into, but it is your first step.

Sheltered students have their parents babying them and that pushes them back. In order to become a successful adult, you MUST learn how to take care of yourself. If your parents are still packing your lunches, cooking and doing your chores, it is hurting you, not helping you. So if you feel like you are sheltered, start doing more and I promise the results will not disappoint!

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From The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage

Sorry, I am really not sorry that I'm skipping the party.
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What's so wrong with skipping the party stage?

I can't count how many times I've been told I am missing out on the "best years of my life" because I'm not participating in stereotypical college party-girl behavior. I have even been told that I'll have a mid-life crisis because I am skipping this apparently crucial stage of life. Really? A freaking mid-life crisis? Because I'm skipping out on hooking up with strangers and being belligerently drunk every weekend?

Naturally, as a 19-year-old college student, my favorite pastime should be getting intoxicated. For some odd reason, though, I find it hard to believe that the best years of my life are supposed to be filled with moments that I won't remember.

Because my priorities lay in a different place than the stereotypical college kid doesn't by any means indicate that I am uptight, boring or a prude. Believe it or not, I get high on life just as much as you do on booze and weed.

Spending my time reading a good book with my morning coffee definitely tops a nasty hangover. Cuddling with my boyfriend of two years undoubtedly makes me happier than any one-night-stand ever could.

A successful girls' night for me is filled with hours of "Grey's Anatomy," ridiculous singing to Taylor Swift, and one-too-many slices of pizza — not dancing with girls that I barely know at a frat party.

Sorry, but if you're looking for someone to black out with and compliment your dress that is just too tight, I am not your girl. Want to have an actual discussion? Want to go to dinner, maybe even take a road trip? I am totes down for that.

When I look back on the best years of my life, I want my mind to be filled with memories that will bring a smile to my face — not a cringe.

Sorry, I am really not sorry that I'm skipping the party.


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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.

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I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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