I have always been a firm believer that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Whether it’s a grade in a class, a raise at work, or even winning a title for athletics. If you want it, you go and get it. I think this mentality was implemented by my mom because she has always been the one to push me to go after what I want. From this, it has allowed me to have confidence in knowing exactly what I want in life. I don’t really fumble around too much with “I don’t know” and shoulder shrugs. I get after it.

I was scrolling through Pinterest one day (per usual) when I first saw the quote, “Anything worth having is worth waiting for.” I immediately thought it was just a lazy person’s way of trying to feel good about themselves. I have always thought that if you want something worth having, you have to go after it and get it. Life is too short to sit around and wait for whatever that thing is that you really want. I didn’t think too much about it and quickly scrolled on. About a week ago… I revisited that quote with a different mindset this time.

While I had been fighting for something the past couple of months, I began to realize that this was one of those times where that quote was relevant. A relationship. I was and am still in the process of making up for a past mistake. While I am fighting to prove myself, I realized that this was a relationship that I needed to be patient for. I need to wait. Important relationships don’t just happen overnight, they take time. In some cases, they take a lot of time. Like when the timing of life is off. One person might be ready while the other person isn’t.

In this case, if it’s a relationship worth having, it’s a relationship worth waiting for. In those times, you must be patient. You can preach about how much you want that relationship and that you know it’s meant to be, but the timing is off. The timing was off months ago and it is still off now. During this time, I have realized the importance of waiting.

Not waiting like, I am going to hide away and wait for prince charming to come sweep me off my feet. Hell no, I’ll sweep myself off my own feet. I mean waiting like, I’m waiting and continuing my life in the direction I want to go while continuing to hold those feelings close to my heart. When I look around and see potential prospects, my heart doesn’t beat the same way that it used to. I used to get butterflies and think about the excitement and potential with a relationship, which would soon die out quickly. Now, I look around and think about the important things.

I think about who makes me feel at home. Who makes me laugh and I mean really laugh. Someone who picks up my weak parts and builds them up. Someone who would make a great partner in life and a best friend on top of that. When I look around at the “potential” I don’t see potential anymore. I see a couple mistakes that my old self would have continued to make.

While I keep on pursuing my life, I am perusing with the idea that anything worth having is worth waiting for. I keep fighting and going after that relationship that I want, but I also learn the importance of patience and waiting for the timing of life to align.

Lord knows that phone tag at life is the worst.