An Open Letter To Those Preparing For The New Year

An Open Letter To Those Preparing For The New Year

With a new year comes new people and new opportunities and so much more
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It's here, it's finally here. A whole new year.

With a new year comes new people and new opportunities and so much more.

If you don't already have a New Years resolution, or you have a pretty unrealistic resolution here's one simple one for you "realize where you're at right now in life" sounds cliche I know, but it could bring you into a serious conversation with yourself and get you to understand the things you're holding back on or things you want. You need to take time to listen to yourself if there's something you know you want but never find the time for it, find the time for it only you and your head are the ones that are holding you back. If something is stressing you out but you just keep putting it off hoping it will go away, stop putting it off and realize how to make this problem go away. You could be so much happier just listening to yourself and understanding yourself along the way too.

And if you think your resolution is too "unrealistic" make it not be unrealistic. In fact, it's only unrealistic if you think you can't do it, anything is possible so go and do what you want. Sure there are some things that aren't humanly possible like losing 50 pounds in a day (regardless of what the crazy weight loss programs tell us) but you could set goals for yourself and allow yourself, every day, to get closer to reaching that goal. Set a goal that is something you know you can achieve, eventually. And don't feel like your resolution needs a time gap. Who decided that New Year's resolutions had to be completed so quickly, you have an entire year before people start scolding you that you didn't complete your resolution. So take the time, because you have it, to set and achieve a resolution that will make you happy.

Here comes the typical "leave the bad in 2016 and bring the good into 2017" Don’t think I could stress this enough. If you had a bad feeling about someone or something in 2016, chances are a new year does not mean a new chance for them to make it in their life. Let the new year bring in positive people. The people that want and are meant to be in your life will find a way into your life! This is the same as considering who’s life you would want to be a part of. Think of the people you talk to every day and make the effort to talk to because you truly care about them — if people are doing the same for you, it’s time to reconsider their being in your life. Don't stress the people that aren’t stressing you. Allow this year to make you realize you need in your life, and who needs you.

Do the things that make you happy this year and forget everyone else's opinions. You will do yourself a huge favor if you stop trying to please everyone else and try for once to just please yourself. Sure it can be easy to fear others opinions of you but whats the point anyways? words can hurt, but only if you allow them to. If you want to dress a certain way, dress that way; if you want to talk to certain people, talk to them; if you want to post about how much you love your life, do it. Most of the time the people who take the time out of their day to bash yours have nothing better to do, remember that you do! Your life is important and you only have a certain amount of years to live it, so this year let go and let yourself be happy and do the things that you want.

Lastly, With a new year comes new resolutions and change, however. Don't feel like just because everyone else is ready for change that you need to change too. Change has become so glamorized, people feel they need a change in their life in order to like their life, that however, is completely false. Change is for the people who don't like certain aspects of their life and that is totally okay, too, because they have the strength and willpower to say "I am better than this, I want to make a change". If you like the way your life is running don't feel like you need to make a change to it just because it's a whole new year, after all, it's just a number, a new date and it's okay bringing people and things forward from 2016 into 2017.

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19 Struggles Only Girls With The 'Looks Thin In Clothes But Not In A Bikini' Body Type Will Understand

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided one-pieces were cool again.
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We grew up thinking the world was black and white. There's tall people and short people. There's old people and young people.

There's fat people and skinny people.

But as you get older, you realize there is a lot more in between those two ends of the spectrum than you ever thought possible. Especially when it comes to weight. And you do a lot more realizing if you're in an awkward position on that scale... Literally.

1. People always tell you to stop saying you are fat

Obviously, your friends SHOULD prevent you from talking negatively about yourself. And if you only saw you when you were fully dressed, you'd probably tell yourself to stop saying you're fat, too.

2. And are kind of surprised by your actual weight

You've definitely had friends who are shocked by the number on your scale because you can carry it pretty well when you are fully dressed.

3. Sometimes you feel like a catfish

Have you ever changed out of your super cute, flattering outfit and looked at yourself in the mirror and thought... Wow, am I lying to people?

4. But you know this is probably true for most people

When you're wearing clothes, typically the parts of a body that bring about insecurities (stomach, namely) are covered. No matter the body type, you realize most people are more comfortable in clothes than out of them.

5. Your confidence is often contingent on the month

November? Yep, won't need to be in shorts or a bikini for about 7-8 months. I am good to go.

February? I'll need to be in a bikini soon.. I could use some work.

6. You are thrilled by the one-piece bathing suit making a fashion come back

A resounding 'thank you' to whoever decided it was time to give one-pieces a try again. The stomachs of us in-between gals are appreciative.

7. Crop tops are 95% of the time not your top of choice

Yeah, okay, clothes are supposed to work for me and not against me.

8. You honestly don't understand jean sizes

I have fluctuated in weight a lot of my life, most recently losing 25lbs, and I still did not budge in jean sizes.

9. You wonder what other people think when they see you

Do other people see me as thin in clothing? Or fat in a bikini? What size am I perceived as?

10. Shopping is kind of a nightmare

Have you ever found about 27 items you liked, added the prices and thought, ah, it is going to be so tough to choose from all of these items? Only to go into the fitting room and realize only 2 of the items fit you well? Yep, me every single time I go to the store.

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11. You're thankful that at least you've got boobs

You can kind of hide them in clothes, and then let them steal the show away from your tummy in a swimsuit.

12. You have a hard time setting weight-loss goals

You aren't really sure how overweight you are (if you are, at all) and you don't want to be at an unhealthy weight on either side of the spectrum.

13. Body positivity comes and goes

There are days, weeks or even months when you feel like the most beautiful person on the planet, and then something happens (old jeans don't fit, you try on a new bathing suit, etc.) and you convince yourself that all of that confidence was wrong and undeserved.

14. You always try on the biggest size first

Either this or you're in a weird limbo between the smallest plus sizes size and the biggest generic sizes size.

15. Half of you knows every body is a bikini body, and half of you is convinced that yours is not

You know that your body is worthy of wearing whatever you want to wear, but looking at yourself and seeing what society (and you) sometimes deem as unattractive can eat away at that knowledge.

16. But you also know self-love and confidence are key to beauty

Even if you have to fake it, you know that feeling confident is going to carry you pretty far.

17. Being in a bathing suit is a constant game of readjustment

Okay, I am sitting. Pull the bottoms up to cover as much as my stomach as possible and the back of the top down to cover any back rolls.

18. You've avoided the mirror after a shower before

You know that you are just going to lose all the comfort you felt in your body during the day when you see yourself, so sometimes it is best to just avoid it.

19. Ultimately, you know your beauty is not contingent on what you are wearing

The goal for everyone should be to get to a point where it doesn't matter if you're in a snowsuit, a bathing suit or a birthday suit... You can see your beauty no matter what and feel confident despite what you have on. It'll take time, but falling in love with the way you look is worth it.

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The End Of The Year Itch

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It is the almost the most wonderful time of the year: summer vacation! If you’re like me that means an internship and work but getting to stay in your favorite city! Plus living with my best friend!

That also means you are probably experiencing what I call the end of the year itch, it’s that super uncomfortable and irritating transition from school to a summer vacation that drives me absolutely mad.

This is the time right before you take final exams that you truly feel like you might rip all of your hair out if summer doesn’t get here soon! Just me? Probably.

We've arrived at the last stop before break and professors are frisbeeing assignments left and right. The library is no longer a peaceful place but rather a funhouse of chaos hinted with a tense, anxiety-filled atmosphere. Study rooms are long gone and booked so it's every man for himself.

If you live with people this is the time that y'all are starting to drive each other beyond crazy, and are in need of some time apart especially if you plan on living together the following year.

I have lived with 6+ people since my freshman year of college and this has always proven true. Absence does make the heart grow fonder and is the silent glue that holds a friendship together. I love the feeling of being back at school with my friends and hearing all about their summer adventures while also looking forward to the future.

And don't forget the little things you have to take care of like canceling your parking pass for the summer, finding a place to sublease or a subleaser, and all of the packing/unpacking it takes to move out of one place and into another. Whew! There is no greater feeling than the sweet relief of being moved in/out and unpacked.

Then finally the heat wave hits, you don't have to use the words exam or group project for two and half months. That end of the year itch is covered by a suntan and there are nothing but blue skies my friend. You may be busy with other things but hey at least you're not in class, right?

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