An Open Letter To Those Preparing For The New Year

An Open Letter To Those Preparing For The New Year

With a new year comes new people and new opportunities and so much more
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It's here, it's finally here. A whole new year.

With a new year comes new people and new opportunities and so much more.

If you don't already have a New Years resolution, or you have a pretty unrealistic resolution here's one simple one for you "realize where you're at right now in life" sounds cliche I know, but it could bring you into a serious conversation with yourself and get you to understand the things you're holding back on or things you want. You need to take time to listen to yourself if there's something you know you want but never find the time for it, find the time for it only you and your head are the ones that are holding you back. If something is stressing you out but you just keep putting it off hoping it will go away, stop putting it off and realize how to make this problem go away. You could be so much happier just listening to yourself and understanding yourself along the way too.

And if you think your resolution is too "unrealistic" make it not be unrealistic. In fact, it's only unrealistic if you think you can't do it, anything is possible so go and do what you want. Sure there are some things that aren't humanly possible like losing 50 pounds in a day (regardless of what the crazy weight loss programs tell us) but you could set goals for yourself and allow yourself, every day, to get closer to reaching that goal. Set a goal that is something you know you can achieve, eventually. And don't feel like your resolution needs a time gap. Who decided that New Year's resolutions had to be completed so quickly, you have an entire year before people start scolding you that you didn't complete your resolution. So take the time, because you have it, to set and achieve a resolution that will make you happy.

Here comes the typical "leave the bad in 2016 and bring the good into 2017" Don’t think I could stress this enough. If you had a bad feeling about someone or something in 2016, chances are a new year does not mean a new chance for them to make it in their life. Let the new year bring in positive people. The people that want and are meant to be in your life will find a way into your life! This is the same as considering who’s life you would want to be a part of. Think of the people you talk to every day and make the effort to talk to because you truly care about them — if people are doing the same for you, it’s time to reconsider their being in your life. Don't stress the people that aren’t stressing you. Allow this year to make you realize you need in your life, and who needs you.

Do the things that make you happy this year and forget everyone else's opinions. You will do yourself a huge favor if you stop trying to please everyone else and try for once to just please yourself. Sure it can be easy to fear others opinions of you but whats the point anyways? words can hurt, but only if you allow them to. If you want to dress a certain way, dress that way; if you want to talk to certain people, talk to them; if you want to post about how much you love your life, do it. Most of the time the people who take the time out of their day to bash yours have nothing better to do, remember that you do! Your life is important and you only have a certain amount of years to live it, so this year let go and let yourself be happy and do the things that you want.

Lastly, With a new year comes new resolutions and change, however. Don't feel like just because everyone else is ready for change that you need to change too. Change has become so glamorized, people feel they need a change in their life in order to like their life, that however, is completely false. Change is for the people who don't like certain aspects of their life and that is totally okay, too, because they have the strength and willpower to say "I am better than this, I want to make a change". If you like the way your life is running don't feel like you need to make a change to it just because it's a whole new year, after all, it's just a number, a new date and it's okay bringing people and things forward from 2016 into 2017.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Forget The Beach, Do These Things Instead

These 25 thing won't break your bank this summer.

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When you think of summertime you think of the beach. Going to the beach usually involves a lot of driving and necessary spending. These 25 activities are perfect for summer and will not break your bank.

1. Take A Walk.

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As simple as it sounds, take a walk. Walk around your town or neighborhood; you'll be amazed at all of the little things you normally miss whenever you're driving by.

2. Have A Picnic.

Nothing says summer like a picnic. It can be at your local park or even in your backyard; just don't forget the watermelon!

3. Roast s'mores!

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Everyone loves a good s'more, and the nostalgic smell of the campfire.

4. Make your own ice cream.

Ice cream is the perfect sweet treat to cool down on the hot summer day, but it can also break your budget. Homemade ice cream is fun, delicious, and will not hurt your wallet.

Here is a sweet recipe!

5. Blow bubbles.

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I mean come on, who doesn't love blowing bubbles.

6. Watch the clouds

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Whenever you're having a stressful or sad day grab a blanket and head outside and watch the clouds blow by. Make a game out of how many different shapes you can identify.

7. Pick some berries.

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Find a local strawberry or blueberry field that allows customers to pick their own berries, it is a lot more fun than it sounds trust me.

8. Go to a minor league baseball game.

Hot dogs, ice cream, and fun memories are all to be had at a local baseball game.

9. Go to a parade.

Your town or a neighboring town most likely has a holiday parade on Memorial Day, 4th of July, or labor day. Go to these parades, you'll get to see all of the local youth organizations, support your community, and maybe even get some candy thrown your way.

10. Watch the fireworks.

Really watch the fireworks, don't try to take pictures that will come out blurry. Live in the moment.

11. Watch the sunrise

It may involve an earlier bedtime the night before, but it will be worth it.

12. Watch the sunset.

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13. Make a slip & slide

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Tarp+water+soap=endless fun

14. Paint with bubbles.

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This takes blowing bubbles to a whole new level. Add your favorite colors of food coloring to your bubbles grab a piece of paper and blow onto the paper; you'll come away with a masterpiece.

15. Make a bird feeder.

Give back to mother nature by building a bird feeder.

16. Catch lightning bugs.

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AND THEN LET THEM GO!

17. Build a fort.

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Let's be real, everybody loves a good fort.

18. Tye-Dye something.

Shirt, socks, blankets, it doesn't matter what it is as long as you have fun.

19. Read.

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Go to a local bookstore, run your fingers along the spines of all the books and pick the one that calls to you.

20. Color with chalk.

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Unleash your inner artist on your driveway and/or sidewalk.

21. Pick up litter.

Go outside and help clean mother earth, it will not only benefit you but everybody around you as well.

22. Have an absolutely epic water gun battle.

Swim Pool Boy Water Swimming Summer Water Gun

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Grab your friend, enemy, kid, neighbor, parents, whoever you can find and challenge them to a water gun battle.

23. Go camping.

Get back into nature in your backyard, or at a free campsite.

24. Volunteer.

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Many of us have extra time in the summer so volunteer your time in your community!

(Dog walking at the local animal shelter is always a great choice)

25. Find joy.

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Find what makes you happy, and never stop doing it.

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