An Open Letter To The Struggling Single
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An Open Letter To The Struggling Single

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An Open Letter To The Struggling Single

At times, it’s hard to see past your own reflection staring back at you.

Let’s just take time to be honest with ourselves. I don’t think there ever was a time you didn’t pick yourself to pieces because someone merely decided to move on; move on from what you possibly thought was real.

Honestly, not many things add up to the hurt you feel when someone decides that you aren’t enough.

But stop right there.

I’ll be the first to tell you that the lie of not being good enough has tried to sink its ugly claws into me so deep that I truly walked in the belief that I am and never will be good enough.

It is miserable and heart breaking, and there’s honestly nothing like it. Yes, I still struggle with my insecurities and yes, I still battle with those lies, but I can truly say I’m a lot better than I’ve been before.

In time, I feel as though the Lord has brought to my attention a new perspective on the matter.

Truth is, no heartbreak can touch your life without going through God first, and though it is impossible to live in a lost world without them, they all serve a mighty purpose.

So here's the truth of the matter. You are in what I'd like to call your "single season".

I always tell girls (and sometimes guys, too) who start to become impatient to learn to understand that God will not give us something that is not yet prepared by the master Himself. If He did, then it would be incomplete or in other words, “a piece of work”.

The Bible tells us that He has made everything beautiful in its time. And we know that the Word of God is alive and as true as ever.

You are in a season in your life where you are completely worried and concerned for yourself. And that’s okay. Worry about your well-being, your career path, your friendships, your future, but most importantly, your relationship with God.

In your single season, you need to be more in love with Jesus and not so much with being in love, because I am a firm believer that Jesus Himself willingly shows us what true love is every second of every day. It is up to us to acknowledge that.

Now, after all I've learned, I’m thankful to be at a place in my life where I am so content with being single.

A part of my ministry is speaking life into the lives of young girls. I remember being their age and thinking I wanted a boyfriend and thought I knew what love was. Now that I’m older and more mature, I now look at all those young girls who think what I did at their age and try to encourage them to just enjoy their youth. My goodness, if anything, I wish I could take back all the times I worried so much about boys and just enjoyed life. I can’t though, and because of that, I encourage anyone to enjoy their single season.

Seriously, no man has (and never will) love me like Jesus loves me. This is why I am content right now; because I am loved by the Master.

If you feel called to marry, then hold fast to that, and trust that God will provide him/her in His timing.

Habakkuk 2:3 says, "For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay".

I know that being in the middle of the holidays it seems like being single just becomes even worse because you just want someone to bring home and show off to grandma.

Seriously, you don’t have to be married by 23 with your first kid by the age of 24. Seriously.

So here is what I’m going to tell you in my final thoughts.

Wait. Then wait some more.

Don’t settle unless it’s who God has made exactly for you. Even though no one will ever love you like Jesus, wait for a love like His. When God made you, He made your someone, too.

And yes, you deserve it. If Jesus says you are worthy of love, then everyone’s opinion automatically becomes irrelevant.

So stop worrying about it! Enjoy yourself and especially enjoy your single season.

Yes, you are beautiful. Yes, you are handsome. Yes, you are deserving.

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