To The Ones I Thought Were The One

To The Ones I Thought Were The One



I always thought that there would just be one man in my life that would the one and then that would be the end. I had no earthly idea how hard it would be find the one. I have always loved my boyfriends just in different ways, and at one time each of my boyfriends have been "the one".

To my middle school boyfriend,

I thought this breakup was the worse I would ever have, but boy was I wrong about that. Even though things did not work out between us I learned so much not so much about myself but relationships in general. Thank you for teaching me about relationships and for being my first real boyfriend. I learned that real relationships require trust, and no I do not mean me sharing my social media passwords with you. I learned that I should not have to unfollow a boy on instagram simply for liking my picture. While this relationship was not a healthy one I am thankful that you taught me this lesson early in life.

To my high school boyfriend,

I still think about you all the time and as much as I wish it could work out I know that it never will. I loved you with all my heart just to find out that the person I loved was just a lie. I loved the person that I thought you were, and sometimes I just think what if you were that person. Thank you for cheating on me and breaking my heart. As much as I hated to let you go it is better sooner than later. Even though you broke my heart you made me realize that I deserve someone who is going to love me not lie to me.

To my college boyfriend,

The hardest thing for me was having to leave and watch it totally destroy your world. It honestly killed me to see you so upset, but I knew it was time to do something for me. I am no longer the girl that you once loved. I changed who I was to make you happy, and I began to realize your morals and values were not where mine were. I should not have to change myself or settle for anything less. Thank you for telling me that I will never amount to anything and that no one will ever love me like you. This truly has been such great motivation for me.

To my future husband,

I have always wished that I could just know who you were going to be. That would have made things so much easier, but I would not have ever learned who I truly am. How could I have ever expected you to know me when I do not even know myself. I hope that you have also learned a lot about yourself. I continue to find myself more and more everyday, and I hope you are doing the same. I just know that when the timing is right you will come into my life. I look forward to that day but as for right now I am happy where I am. I hope that you are happy right now because marriage alone cannot make you happy. I know that marriage can be difficult, and I want to apologize in advance because I know I can be even more difficult. I pray about you daily and I hope that you do the same for me.

I am not sure how many more "ones" I might encounter before I truly find the one, but I am thankful that I have learned myself throughout this process. All of these boys were the one at one point and time, but people change and things happen. Sometimes what you think you want in life turns out to be quite the opposite when you finally get it. Even though things did not work out like I had hoped I am excited to see what the future holds for me.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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The Truth About PETA

After hearing many stories of PETA's cruelty towards animals, it's hard to believe their cause is pure.


A couple of years ago, my family visited an exotic zoo sanctuary that helped save breeds of tigers and took care of injured animals. On the entrance door we noticed a sticker that was dissing PETA. My sister and I were somewhat confused as we thought that PETA was an organization to save animals. Before we entered the zoo, there was a video that we had to watch about the history and purpose of the zoo. In the video, there was a contribution segment for their chimpanzees who were poisoned in their habitat. My family later talked to the owner of the zoo and he started telling us stories about people who have gotten into the zoo and poisoned the animals. Some people had thrown poisoned food over the fences and even bombed the alligator habitat- almost all of which had been members of PETA. There were also banners hanging up promoting a website called PETA kills animals, so I had to check it out.

On this website you can find many statistics and proof of the percentages of animals PETA has killed, PETA's claims, animal treatment, and the groups that they fund. While talking to the zoo owner, he had told us a story from when he worked for PETA for a short period of time. "There was a little boy who had brought in his pet bunny who had specifically asked to give it a better home, the associate agreed and then took it to the back where they had put it down." I asked him why they would just kill the pets without giving them a chance and his answer was shocking.

The owner told us that the people who kill pets and captive animals see it as doing the animal a favor. They don't believe in the notion of pets and think that no animal should live in a cage. So they believe that death is better for the animal than living domestically. Although it makes sense to want animals to live in the wild, I don't understand why killing them is necessary if they could just release them.

So why do they still post about animal rights? Just because they think that animals should die rather than being in a cage doesn't mean that they think wild animals should also die. Their goal is to rid the world of pets and grow the wild animal population. Animal cruelty is not okay, and they believe that, too. They may post about adoptions because they need to keep up their image and they can't kill all of the animals they house.

What about Sea World? As far as I know, PETA is for shutting Sea World down. Animals are dying in their habitats at Sea World due to poor conditions and bad health. If Sea World shuts down, then the animals get to be released from their cages and into the wild.

I have never experienced PETA first hand, but I have heard many stories about their killings. I am somewhat skeptical but I know that I don't trust the organization. What do you think? Does PETA kill animals? It's up for you to decide.

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