Dear super-involved college student,

Hi there. I'm sure you're reading this in between classes or meetings, but if I could continue to just have a few minutes of your time, that'd be great.

I relate to you on a spiritual level. I'm all about being super involved and doing things. I actually drive myself crazy if I'm not busy doing something. It's my thing. I was like this in high school, and now I've brought it to college.

But it's harder now.

College is a different world and a huge growing experience. With that being said, don't kill yourself trying to do everything like you did in high school.

Now I know exactly what you're thinking because I thought the same thing: "I know myself better than you know me. You don't know what's best for me."

And you're right. I don't know what is best for you. You do. But I'm here to remind you to listen to yourself.

If an opportunity comes about and you already have too much on your plate, listen to the little guy on your shoulder telling you to say no. It's okay to say no. Commit to a few things, not all the things. Because when you commit to multiple things, far more than you can handle, you stretch yourself too thin and can't do your best at the things you love because too much of your focus is in the 12 other groups you're in.

I would say it's healthy if you commit to 3-4 groups other than your academics so that you're not overwhelmed. So find a few groups/organizations/ministries that you truly love, and fully commit to those. If you're anything like me, I know you want to do everything because you love the experience. But when you're all in on a few things, you get to experience awesome stuff, too.

I promise the world will go on if you say no to a few things. You'll be happier knowing you gave it all to the things you really love. Don't commit to too many things then regret it in the end.

Your friend (and kindred spirit)