Honestly, the last relationship that I was in was an incredibly destructive one. I didn’t tell many people, but it was the only time in my life that the awful things someone said to me actually affected me emotionally. I’m such a happy person and being called heartless, among other negative things, was a blow to my soul and started the chain of thinking about “What did I do wrong? What about myself do I need to change to make him stop insulting me?” Before I start to thank the wonderfully amazing guy that picked up my broken pieces, you all need to know that you should never try and change yourself to fit the demands of your significant other. You were made the way you are for a specific purpose and fitting in with what someone else wants you to be and up to their standards is most certainly not it.
To the guy that helped heal an emotionally damaged girl,
First of all, thank you so much. There aren’t many people that would watch a girl go through a flashback of her past relationship hysterically and be there to completely support her. You just held me in your arms and told me that everything was going to be okay, and I don’t think you could have possibly handled the situation any better. Because of the lack of love that I am used to, this one act held me together and made me respect you more than I believed I could ever respect any guy ever again. After my meltdown, you looked at me differently, but in a positive way. You told me that you were so in love with the brave girl that could overcome a bad relationship and come out even stronger on the other side. I had never been complimented like that, and you helped me stop dwelling in the past and looking forward to the future.
You started the healing process before our relationship was even official. Before you even asked if I would be your girlfriend, you always made me feel so confident in myself. I had completely given up on ever finding a significant other, and you always reassured me that I was such a wonderful creation. Instead of just leaving me to guess if you liked me or not, you flat out told me that you liked me so much and that if I had any flaws, that you couldn't see them. Normally, I'd have to call bull when a guy says that, but you are so genuine when you give out compliments.
Even though I can't see the future and I don't know how long we will last (though hopefully it's a very long time), you still get all of the credit for teaching me how to love again.
All my love,
A recovering bad relationship survivor
