It starts out magical; he sweeps you off your feet, complimenting you, trying to impress you. The first month of a new relationship is always the best. You’re still trying to figure each other out, getting to know each other. He even shows interest in the little things. You’re excited. You tell your friends that you finally found a guy that is cute, caring, and trustworthy.
However, as the relationship continues to grow, so do the warning signs. The little lies here and there, the cancelling of plans, the empty promises. You ignore it all, just chalking it up to a one-time thing. You don’t see it coming, but your friends do and try to warn you. You ignore them of course. You’re too wrapped up in your own little bubble where nothing bad happens.
Then, something big happens. His ex re-enters the picture. You tell him that if he wants to go back it’s fine, just to let you know. He tells you he has no feelings left for her, that they decided to be amicable and he doesn’t want to harbor resentment towards her. You tell him it’s fine and think that it’s actually super nice of him to still care.
As time goes on, life happens and you aren’t able to see as much of each other. When you do have the time and make plans, he cancels last minute and promises to make up for it. But he never makes up for it. You cry wondering what’s wrong with you and why things aren’t working out. You feel bad about yourself and have still yet to blame him for anything, even when it’s his fault.
You start losing touch with each other. He begins to not text you as much. He stops showing interest in your life, and even when you do manage to find the time and make plans, they fall through. You keep hoping that you’ll both have the time to mend things eventually and you are still willing to make the effort.
Then one day, you’re on Facebook, and you see it: the all-official Facebook relationship status. He’s back with his ex he swore he had no feelings left for. You just stare at your computer screen. Not knowing whether to scream or cry. In the pit of your stomach you can feel a rage that you didn’t even know was building up this whole time.
They had been together for months, and he didn’t even have the balls to tell you. You want to know the worst part of it all? You had still been talking with him that whole time, making plans to see each other. Which of course you now know are completely bullshit.
You feel completely defeated. How could you’ve been so stupid? The warning signs were all there; even your friends saw it coming. You let another guy treat you terribly and there isn’t a lot you can do about it. You begin to think “what’s wrong with yourself?” You wallow in self-pity and slip into a deep funk.
Well, I am here to tell you to get your shit together.
I mean this in the most caring way. You want to feel bad for yourself, and think that the whole world is against you, that’s fine. You can do whatever you want. But, if you want to not feel like shit anymore, well then listen up.
If you allow some worthless guy dictate how you feel, then you’re letting him win. He’s getting exactly want he wants. But, if you want to stand up for yourself and make him angry, then just take this situation as a learning step in life. Use that rage inside you to kick ass and succeed.
When people tell you success is the best revenge, they aren’t lying. Delete him from your life. The less you see of him, the better. Focus on your life and what you can do to improve it. What’s the easiest and first step of this? Get rid of him.
The sooner you start worrying about yourself and not of what he’s doing or whether or not he's thinking of you, the better off you’ll be. If you doubt yourself, remember two things:
1.) You’ve got so many people in your life to help you and that love you.
2.)
