An Open Letter To The Girl Who I Thought Would Be My Forever Friend

An Open Letter To The Girl Who I Thought Would Be My Forever Friend

I don't miss you.

Dear Ex- Best Friend,

Sitting in your room, blasting Paranoid by Tyga, talking about life, things seemed like they couldn't get any better. Growing closer and closer by every sleepover we had each weekend, endless mall trips, ordering cheese fries from Outback with EXTRA ranch, planning our speeches for eachothers weddings, crying over boys, laughing at boys, planning to get matching tattoos and everything inbetween. You were my best friend.

Living life with you day by day, I couldn't picture having a better best friend. I really thought you would be my forever friend. We had the type of friendship that if we weren't texting and snapchatting all day, we were together. We had the type of friendship that if we didn't see each other for a whole week, it wasn't normal. We had the type of friendship that you could be brutally honest with me and I would get defensive, but I knew it was for the best. We had the type of friendship that I could walk around with no pants on, and it wasn't weird. We had the type of friendship that you would listen to me complain about the same boy, and still hear me out about how he is going to "change." We had the type of friendship that we could talk about absolutely anything and it would never get weird. We had the type of friendship that you weren't even a best friend, you were my sister.

Making the decision to not have you in my life anymore was not easy. Now, six months later I realized it was for the best. The last few months of our friendship was rocky and there was obvious tension neither of us were talking about. Our easy going, fun, loving friendship just wasn't the same. All throughout high school I made you my top priority on the friendship ladder and didn't pay other people much mind. Why would I though? We had been best friends since seventh grade. Not having many other friends seemed great in the moment, but looking back it hurt me immensely.

Thank you for the great memories we shared, but I have made new ones, with new friends. Thank you for saying I wouldn't be able to make new friends because nobody liked me, it pushed me to change myself for college. Thank you for saying my anxiety would always hold me back, and I would never be able to be romantically involved with a boy. I am now in a happy relationship. Thank you for saying you didn't want to be involved with me if I drank, cheers to that. Thank you for attempting to hold me back from making new friends because you didn't like them; it made me realize that's not what a supportive friend does. Thank you for trying to always hold me down indirectly because it pushed me to work harder. Thank you for always trying to out to do me, in everything; it made me realize not everything is materialistic and friendship shouldn't be a competition. Thank you for pushing me away from you so I can now call my new best friend, a best friend.

So, to the girl who I thought would be my forever friend, I don't miss you.


Your Ex- Best Friend

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Oh, hello my name is socially awkward and I'm going to live in your head making every encounter with a human being as uncomfortable as possible. Now let's begin...

"Is that person waving at you?... ye... nope... HA gotcha!"

"This is definitely something a normal person would say. You should say it. Say it now so they will think you're funny."

"That's odd no one is laughing... do something with your hands."

"Oh no... silence..."

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"Well looks like you're getting the hang of things so I'll just leave you to it."

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5 Simple Ways To Keep Your Life's Bucket Full

The children's book "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids" by Carol McCloud teachers early elementary students what it is like to have their very own bucket

GPositive behavior is not practiced by many but preached by all. It is important to understand that everyone has an invisible bucket. The bucket may be emptied if you did an action that leads another to unhappiness. The key to life is happiness. Why not practice it?

The children's book "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids" by Carol McCloud teachers early elementary students what it is like to have their very own bucket. As an adult, it is important to be educated on how to treat others and fill another's bucket, whenever possible.

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It takes two words. You could be out at the store, passing a classmate, or just wishing someone a good morning. Two words can make someone's dreadful day into a day worth living. Some people wake up on the wrong side of the bed and a simple greeting could help change their perspective.

Changing someone's perspective can alter their day. Have you ever thought, "Why is this person so mean... I didn't even do anything to them? A simple greeting could have changed the way they looked at their day. Be the person of change.

2. Be honest

I am sure you have told a lie. So what? Things happen and people tell a long tale or two.

But, in the bucket-filling world, you are dipping into another's bucket. You are trying to make yourself happy despite the lies you are telling. It is not good to lie and honestly turns out better in the end.

The best way to get along with people is telling them how you feel. Telling the person you do not like the way something is being handled or the way they act can help that person become someone you like... or at least tolerate.

3. Be careful what you say

When people post online, it could offend some while it may amuse others. It is important to understand that not everyone can take a joke. I have seen people get overwhelmed over content that may or may not involve them. Questioning online posts are ridiculous.

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Is talking to people hard? Why not try and speak what is on your mind? It could be the hard truth, you being nice, or simply wanting to put yourself out there.

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