An Open Letter To The Girl Who I Thought Would Be My Forever Friend

An Open Letter To The Girl Who I Thought Would Be My Forever Friend

I don't miss you.

Dear Ex- Best Friend,

Sitting in your room, blasting Paranoid by Tyga, talking about life, things seemed like they couldn't get any better. Growing closer and closer by every sleepover we had each weekend, endless mall trips, ordering cheese fries from Outback with EXTRA ranch, planning our speeches for eachothers weddings, crying over boys, laughing at boys, planning to get matching tattoos and everything inbetween. You were my best friend.

Living life with you day by day, I couldn't picture having a better best friend. I really thought you would be my forever friend. We had the type of friendship that if we weren't texting and snapchatting all day, we were together. We had the type of friendship that if we didn't see each other for a whole week, it wasn't normal. We had the type of friendship that you could be brutally honest with me and I would get defensive, but I knew it was for the best. We had the type of friendship that I could walk around with no pants on, and it wasn't weird. We had the type of friendship that you would listen to me complain about the same boy, and still hear me out about how he is going to "change." We had the type of friendship that we could talk about absolutely anything and it would never get weird. We had the type of friendship that you weren't even a best friend, you were my sister.

Making the decision to not have you in my life anymore was not easy. Now, six months later I realized it was for the best. The last few months of our friendship was rocky and there was obvious tension neither of us were talking about. Our easy going, fun, loving friendship just wasn't the same. All throughout high school I made you my top priority on the friendship ladder and didn't pay other people much mind. Why would I though? We had been best friends since seventh grade. Not having many other friends seemed great in the moment, but looking back it hurt me immensely.

Thank you for the great memories we shared, but I have made new ones, with new friends. Thank you for saying I wouldn't be able to make new friends because nobody liked me, it pushed me to change myself for college. Thank you for saying my anxiety would always hold me back, and I would never be able to be romantically involved with a boy. I am now in a happy relationship. Thank you for saying you didn't want to be involved with me if I drank, cheers to that. Thank you for attempting to hold me back from making new friends because you didn't like them; it made me realize that's not what a supportive friend does. Thank you for trying to always hold me down indirectly because it pushed me to work harder. Thank you for always trying to out to do me, in everything; it made me realize not everything is materialistic and friendship shouldn't be a competition. Thank you for pushing me away from you so I can now call my new best friend, a best friend.

So, to the girl who I thought would be my forever friend, I don't miss you.


Your Ex- Best Friend

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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As A Human Being, You Need To Start Feeling Satisfied With Dissatisfaction

And it's that same desire to want better things, more things, grander things that makes us feel the same lack of satisfaction now that humans felt back then.


It's a normal and human thing to want to feel happy and satisfied with whatever you do in life — I mean who really wants to live in an uncomfortable state? Nobody, that's who.

But at the same time, nearly everyone is living in a state of dissatisfaction in some aspect of their life.

I know, I know… I'm going out on a limb here by saying everyone is feeling something — and I understand I don't know you, I don't know how you're feeling so if you're offended at that, my apologies. Yet, I do honestly believe it is something a lot of people feel consistently throughout their life.

At least I know I do.

The feeling of dissatisfaction is not something that is up front and center as the main stage show in my mind, but they're more like the intermissions that are a part of every show you go to. These thoughts of dissatisfaction are seemingly hardwired into us so we can use them to reflect on what we're doing in life at that time and if it's really the best for us.

I think that these are hardwired feelings from way back when humans were in the hunter-gatherer phase of our evolutionary track. We may have survived one night, but that doesn't mean it was a good night. There would be things that could always be improved on, perhaps a dryer shelter, more food the night before. It was a feeling of wanting to be more satisfied then what they already were.

And it's that same desire to want better things, more things, grander things that makes us feel the same lack of satisfaction now that humans felt back then.

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