To the girl who’s falling out of love and feels bad for it:

I know this feeling. You’re feeling is an awful feeling. A feeling that you’re going to remember for the rest of your life. You feel like the bad person. The one that is going to be blamed for the break up but that isn’t as bad as it sounds. Being “blamed” for the break up is just another way of saying that you realized you weren't happy, and wanted to be.

If the break up ends on bad terms, there is a chance that there will be lies spread around. There will be rumors of how you cheated, how you were always talking to guys behind his back and how you were always asking to go on extravagant dates. What is unfair is they won’t even mention all the times he talked about and to his ex. How he promised he wasn’t talking to her, but he would talk to her longer then he would talk to you. No one will mention how he was smothering you, how he wanted to be by your side 24/7. They won’t mention how he would sneak and talk to your best friend behind your back. They won’t mention that he talked to her about the issues he had with the relationship but not once did he come to you. They won’t mention how you payed for every date. How even if you went to McDonalds or Steak n’ Shake, you payed. They won’t mention how no matter how hard you tried to love him, you just couldn’t. They won’t mention how he always made you feel like the bad person.

You may lose friends. You may lose your best friend. She may choose to side with him. That is okay, you didn’t need her any way. Although you love him, he is pushing you away. You cannot blame yourself for falling out of love with someone less than extraordinary. You deserve the best, you deserve extravagant dates that you don’t have to pay for. You deserve a loyal, faithful man that will be there for you and support you. You deserve someone that won’t make you feel like the bad person.

Don’t stay in a relationship where you’re unhappy. Don’t make yourself stay in a place where everyone else around you is happy, but you. You deserve happiness. You deserve to fall in love with someone that makes it impossible to fall out of love with. When you find him, hang onto him, cherish him, and never let him go.

When you fall in love with the right man, it’s more like walking into love. You won’t be scared, you won’t second guess. You won’t have to push yourself, it won’t feel like taking a chance. You will be extremely happy, you will not question. You won’t have to push, you’ll ever so willingly to walk into his arms and feel safe. You won’t feel like the bad person anymore. And that is when you will no longer feel bad for falling out of love.

From the girl who has been there.