So, you are stuck in between a rock and a hard place. Every day you find yourself overwhelmed with love for another human being, but, the two of you haven't made the relationship "official", or "public" yet. Maybe you haven't even discussed the future of the relationship at all. In the meantime, you are in a constant state of limbo. Well, although I can't promise you that the two of you will be together, or it will all work out just as you planned, I can tell you that you will survive this, and it will make you better.

No person has ever enjoyed the waiting game before the clarifying DTR (Define The Relationship) moment. You make yourself crazy pondering over the infinite possibilities: Will we be together? Is he seeing other people? Should I be seeing other people? What if in some opposite universe, he is dating seventeen other girls, and I am just sitting here clueless, and seen as a hopeless romantic? If he is, girl, you better jet, but the usual circumstance is not the latter.

Although it is important to be aware and present while in this waiting period, it is even more important not to obsess over it. When you obsess and critique ever single situation, you begin to seem as crazy as you feel. Nothing will push a man away as quickly as an overly obsessive potential girlfriend. After all, he hasn't yet DTR'ed because naturally, commitment causes hesitation. Do not let this discourage you. Everyone processes emotions at different rates, and it is normal for females to be more eager in most situations regarding the heart. Do not let go of that. It is normal and natural.

If it doesn't work out, that is okay. You will survive and you will meet someone else that is more suited for where you are in life. Not discounting that it is heartbreaking and unfortunate, but there is another side and you will make it there. All of the emotions that you felt through this process only proves things to yourself. You were patient and waited for the outcome. You allowed yourself to open up to another even when it felt impossible. And, at the end, you loved yourself enough to realize that it was time to move on.

If you gain nothing else from this experience, I hope that you were able to benefit from that. You are important, special, and worth the effort of a man. Just continue being patient for the right one.

If it does work out, CONGRATULATIONS, the paths of the two of you were meant to cross and your patience paid off! Cherish your moments together and thank yourself for hanging on long enough to receive the payoff.

Both situations are a win. Both allow us to do some personal reflection and test our willingness to wait. Bask in this and feel the accomplishment that it brings. Love yourself. You deserve it.