An open letter to the girl struggling to make friends
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An open letter to the girl struggling to make friends

This happenss to more people than you think; you're not alone.

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An open letter to the girl struggling to make friends
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Dear___,

I couldn't help but notice that you have yet to find that one group of people that you feel you belong with,and that's okay. I know being a freshman is hard and that it's not fun adjusting to a new environment while feeling alone, but no matter how they make you feel, you are worthy.

I feel I need to apologize for a couple of things. First, let me apologize on behalf of our community. A community that calls for and preaches having strong ties with each other, yet ostracizes people who seem to be different or who have trouble fitting in.

Second, I must apologize for seeing how they walked away hastily when they saw you coming because they've been trying to get rid of you, and saying nothing. I might need to even apologize for not apologizing for this first because I am the only person I can control.

Thirdly, I apologize for being so consumed with how bad my week has been that I couldn't shake off the residue of bad feelings to maybe be the friend you need. I'm sorry that the only way I could do anything to help you was to write this letter filled with nothing but apologies. A letter that you might not even read...

My heart hurts for you. I know this is a difficult time in your life, but don't let this hinder you from anything. Freshman year doesn't last forever. College doesn't last forever; have faith. You will find friends who fit well with you and who care about you sometime during your college career. There will be more open minded, friendly people who are willing to accept you with open arms, and you won't have to worry about fitting in or feeling like you fit in.

I applaud you for sitting down at tables with people you don't know and putting yourself out there. I applaud you for not giving up. For putting your feelings aside and trying to make new friends every day.

Those girls who walked away from you as if you were a leper aren't the kind of friends you need. Trust me; it's better to be alone than to try to build shallow friendships just to get through college.

Remember that the friends you need will come your way soon.


Signed, A girl who's been there

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