Dear Ex(s),
I want to whole heartedly say thank you for breaking up with me, it is truly the best thing you ever did for me. Initially after the break-up, I was heartbroken and upset beyond belief. I thought after everything we had been through together, we’d last a longer run than we actually did. The process of getting over you was beyond difficult, don’t get me wrong. But because of you breaking up with me, I’ve learned so much more about myself than I ever expected. I truly appreciate you breaking up with me, you helped guide me onto the path to a better life without you.
Thank you for teaching me that I am a lot stronger of a person than I ever could’ve imagined. Being ripped down by your harsh words initially crushed me and made me question myself as a human being. I thought to myself, “How or where did I go wrong, what could I have done to fix us?” But after truly looking at our past relationship, I realize that I couldn’t have done anything to fix your destructive path besides letting go. You lied, cheated, controlled, and used me — and I tolerated your behavior because of how much I loved you. Without your teaching me the advantage of someone taking your love and vulnerability, I wouldn’t have ever learned to stand up for myself. I am now a stronger person that will not tolerate anyone treating me less than the way I deserve.
Above all else, thank you for showing me that everything truly does happen for a reason. I always thought that expression was a hoax until I met you. Since you broke up with me, I have been graced with the freedom to do whatever I please without someone pretending they have authority to control me like a puppet. I’ve been given the opportunity to meet new people and explore the world in new ways I never thought possible. I discovered who I truly am along with my full potential to achieve greatness. I have been a much happier and successful person without you by my side, and I truly thank you for that.
Thank you for showing me exactly what I do, and don’t want in a relationship. You have guided me in the search of finding someone who is a better fit in what I want and need in life. We definitely shared a lot of great memories and I don’t regret dating you the least bit. There are some qualities you possessed that I loved more than anything — but there were also some qualities that I will never put up with ever again. I am a person, not an object. I am not your possession, your trophy, your toy. I am a human being who deserves respect rather than being dominated over. You taught me the importance of finding a gentleman with respect rather than chasing a bad boy just for the thrill, while helping guide me into my current relationship.
So this letter isn’t a bash or telling you all of the reasons you’re a bad person. This is a letter thanking you for treating me all the right and wrong ways, and teaching me invaluable life lessons that only come from experience. Thank you for saving me from a very, very, bad headache.
Xo
