The internet is full of open letters. You can find them varying from your best friend in elementary school to the guy that broke your heart. I like the idea of writing an open letter to a certain group of people and telling them what you think, so here is mine. An Open Letter to Guys!
Hey Guys,
So I have a bone to pick with you. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard y'all say "I just really want to find a nice girl" or something similar to that. I also cannot tell you how many nice girls I have heard say "I just don't understand why he (or guys in general) won't date me". As you can see we have a major problem on our hands. You guys say that you want and are looking for nice girls, all the while the nice girls are still single and dateless.
The problem is that while you say you want a nice girl, that is not the girl that you pursue. The girls you go after are what my mom would call "loose". They wear less than modest clothes, you never have to take them on a proper date, and they will still give you what you are looking for. They fill your needs whether they are social, emotional, or physical. Girls like this are in your face all the time. You do not have to look extremely hard to find them. That is not the case for us nice girls. Although you do have to look for us, you CAN find us if you try.
The nice girl might look different than you expect. She is not ugly by any means, but her beauty is more than skin deep. She is the girl that asks you if you need anything when you are sick. She will be there to support you in whatever you do. The nice girl dresses nice and trendy, while still leaving a little something to the imagination. She is the girl that you want to take home to meet your parents. She is probably one of your best friends, and if you let her she would be the best girlfriend you would ever have.
I often find myself in conversations with girls where we are asking why is it this way, why do guys say they want nice girls, but then go after the complete opposite? I think I figured out why. Today the answer came to me, you guys are insecure. You do not want to have to risk a hit to your ego so you go after girls you know will say yes. You need someone that is going to tell you what you want to hear, and give you an ego boost when you are feeling low. You want a girl that makes you feel like a man, but never requires you to act like a man.
I think I can speak for the majority of nice girls, when I say that if that is what you want from a girl you can continue to skip over me. Nice girls are not interested in being someones ego boost, or something to help guys feel like a man, Nice girls want a real man, not a boy pretending to be a man.
Until you guys become men and stop playing games, you will always be looking for a nice girl. And the nice girls will keep waiting for a man to come along and treat her the way she deserves to be treated,
Waiting for you guys to get your crap together,
The Nice Girls
