Bucket lists are awesome. From the earliest time I can remember, I would make bucket lists with my friends about our dreams jobs, our celebrity crushes, and crazy dares that we hoped one day we would have the courage to check off.
On the contrary though, there are some things that I just simply never want to happen – things that would be too difficult to understand or process. I have hopes and dream for my life and there isn’t room for anything that will hold me back. And so here’s my ANTI-BUCKET LIST… a list of things that I would be perfectly content with never, ever experiencing.
1. Getting A Divorce
Call me old-fashioned or whatever you want, but for me this just isn’t an option. I think that our generation has become too comfortable with the countless failed marriages that surround us and, as a result, have destroyed the meaning of a relationship. It’s sad and pathetic and no one ever deserves to feel loved one day and left the next. So, to my future husband, whoever you may be, embrace it because you’re stuck with me until death do us part.
2. Fulfilling Someone Else's Dream
I went away to college with a plan that my parents and I had laid out but just like so many other freshman experiencing the “real” world for the first time, I realized I wanted something different for myself. Moving away from home was the best thing for me because I saw that the person I was growing into wasn’t actually me, but a mold of who I was supposed to be. So, as much as it was a battle (and on the rare occasion my dad still tries to convince me to change my mind back) I am chasing my own dream now and I can lay out my own life plan however I see fit. And the greatest part of it all is that I am in control of my life and when I look back in thirty years, I won’t regret a second of it.
3. Letting Time Pass Me By
In high school, I thought the four years went really fast. Now, in college I feel like I’m still a freshman, but will soon be entering my senior year. Time is flying past, and I’ll be darned if I don’t grab every opportunity put in front of me and take every risk I can. If I want to have a wild night out with my friends, I absolutely will. This carefree age with zero responsibilities won’t last forever so I’m going to make the memories now that will last me a lifetime.
4. Not Telling Someone I Love Them When I Do
I hate, hate, hate when I hear, “yeah but what if *insert current crush here* doesn’t feel the same way?!” Guess what girlfriend, lots of people won’t feel the same way you do about a lot of things. But that doesn’t change the importance of your own opinion? HELL NO!! I made a vow to myself awhile back that I would never be ashamed of or hide my feelings for fear of them not being reciprocated. Not everyone is always going to be able to be straight up with me, but I will always be straight up with myself.
5. Regretting Anything
I’m a human being and so I make mistakes…actually, I make a lot of them. But I also learn from those mistakes every single time and do whatever I can to make sure I won’t be back in that situation. Whether it is family, friend, or boy related I always learn from it and then apply the lesson to the future. I’m not going to allow myself to hold onto anger or to punish myself for dumb reasons. It’s over, it’s in the past, and I’m moving on. I refuse to regret anything, because at the time those decisions were made, it was exactly what I wanted.
