I am single because I refuse to settle for a man who doesn't see my worth.
Being single is a choice I have made. I refuse to change my relationship status for someone who falls short of what I need. I make this choice on the daily and I will not have a shame in doing so until somebody comes along that shows me they deserve a chance. While being single can have its ups and downs I have found myself single for quite a few years because I consider myself to be a fairly independent person.
I am a strong independent woman who doesn't need a man. However, that doesn't mean I wouldn't mind having one if the right one came along. It is great to not have to worry about defending my actions to someone or having someone dictate the choices I make.
I have taken the choice to reserve a spot for a man that is hardworking, understanding, honest, loyal, and committed.
Why are you single when a lot of guys would love to be with you?
No they don't want to be with me they want have sex with me and there is a clear difference between the two. None of them want to put in the work. It goes straight to "Hey want to come over and watch a movie?"
Instead of "Hey would you like to grab dinner some night?" If I don't automatically want to have sex with a guy on the first night they get angry and cut me off. I know that this is not a surprise to many of us and that it happens to more people than you think.
With so many experiences like this I have given up.
This is not to say I have given up on finding my true love, being in a relationship, or finding my ideal man. I have given up on going on dates with men that have no intentions on sticking around. I am happy being on my own because I have friends that provide me with more love than ever so I would never "need" a man.
As I get older all of my friends seem to be in relationships. They have other things going on in their life that require time and commitment. It would be nice to have someone to talk to any time of the day about anything at all. When I think about finding a boyfriend it actually scares me. I look at myself and wonder what makes me so undateable? What choices am I making that are preventing me from finding the right guy? I've grown up a lot the past couple of years and have a much different mind set then many other college students. I choose to make choices that will lead me to a very bright future.
Countless times I have been told by my friends to stop being so picky and just settle for one of these guys already. I would never want my friends to settle for anybody less than they deserve.
I do not have high standards but rather look for qualities in a man that seem to be very rare in college. It does worry me that someone like myself is told to settle. Obviously, I'm not the most amazing person in the world and I know I am very far from it but I have worked too hard to become the woman I am to settle for anything less than I deserve.
