Pictures like this are the most inaccurate portrayal of how a girl really feels. Maybe this is how some girls feel, but not all. There of hundreds of reason I tell someone I am OK when they ask how I am. I do not say I am OK to get attention from the person asking or to hope they know what is going on inside my mind. Guys, there are a million things running through my mind, and I do not expect you to know what I am thinking. So yes, I may tell you I am OK when life is rough, but it is not for attention, so please do not ask me like 20 more times. If I wanted to talk about it, I would have told you what was wrong.
I used to be the girl who kept everything to myself until I made the mistake of telling things to someone who walked out of my life. So yes, if you ask me what is wrong, you can bet I will tell you “I am fine.” No, it is not because I want your attention. It is because my struggles are my own struggles. I learned that running to someone every time something goes wrong does nothing but make me dependent on that person. I have learned that my troubles and life struggles are no one’s but my own. I have enough self-worth and self-confidence to battle some things on my own. There are certain people in my life who have the right to know what is going on. So if I say I am fine, you are just not one of those people, or at least not yet.
I want to be able to say I had a bad day and not get asked a million questions. I want to be able to say that I do not want to talk about it and the subject gets dropped. I need to be able to figure things out on my own. I do not think my personal problems should be a typical conversation. This is why the trend of these pictures and Tweets does not make sense to me. Why can a girl not say she is OK and mean it? These pictures degrade girls to make us like we use our feeling to get attention.
Bad days aren’t an abnormal thing and neither is self-worth. When I say I am fine, it is because I can handle things on my own. Unlike those pictures on Instagram and Twitter may lead you to believe, I am not complicated. When I say I am OK, it is because I am OK and have enough confidence in myself to know things will be OK without me having to pour out my life story to you.
Telling you all my problems is not worth you looking at me like I am damaged. Telling you all my problems is not worth you talking to me like you are my guidance consoler. I have enough pride in myself to not let you only see me at my worst. I am a positive person; why would I want to waste a conversation telling you everything that is wrong with life instead of having a conversation that can make it better? I can easily tell you every downside of life, but I decided a long time ago that negativity just is not worth my time.
So next time a girl says she is OK, ask why she is only OK, but when she does not want to talk about it, stop pushing. There are millions of reason she does not want to talk about it in that moment. Know that us girls say we are okay for thousands of reasons and not a single one of those reasons is to get attention.
