Here's Why Your "Almost Relationship" Hurts The Most

Here's Why Your "Almost Relationship" Hurts The Most

Even though you were never together, it sure felt like it was heading in that direction.

Why do we spend so many sleepless nights thinking about that one person who does not even spend a second thinking about us?

Go to sleep, girl. He is not thinking about you.

And damn does that hurt. We wish we could say that all of the conversations we had amounted to something when in reality, the other person was just bored and did not really pour their heart out as much as you did.

Maybe they did care about you, for a moment. Just that fleeting moment. And then they were gone.

You set your sights on this one person only to find out that they were talking to someone else the same time they were talking to you. You thought what you had with them could turn into something more, but it never did.

You think about what you did wrong and the truth is...absolutely nothing. You are annoyed at yourself for taking it so seriously and for not having other options. When you set your sights so high on someone, it’s like you always get disappointed.

The hardest part is explaining this to your friends because you guys weren’t actually in a “relationship,” so why should you be so upset? Well, you did discuss your hopes and dreams with this person and maybe you did some relationship-like things together, so of course you are going to be upset.

Maybe you’re just a dreamer, and you believed that despite the circumstances, you and this person would eventually end up together.

This person just wasn’t ready to love you. It might be aggravating and frustrating, but I’ll tell you one thing it’s not: it’s not worth your trouble. Let yourself be upset for a moment because your feelings are valid, and if someone tells you otherwise, tell them to go buy a fucking journal.

I am the queen of preaching, “Have standards, but don’t have expectations.” Oh, it’s so hard. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy because it’ll give you less time to think about this. It’s not worth your energy, I’m telling you.

The problem is that we give so much to these guys. We feed their stupid egos and here we are craving that attention only to be disappointed. Never seek validation from another person, it should come from within yourself.

A relationship is a want, not a need. And they are supposed to come at the most unexpected times in our lives, which is what we thought was going to happen with this one, but clearly, that was not the case.

About two months ago, I was sitting in my favorite coffee shop alone furiously trying to study for my last international marketing test. I blocked everything out and was completely “in the zone.” Needless to say, I was astonished when a complete stranger walked up to me, put his hand down on the table to get my attention and said, “I’m sorry to bother you, but I just wanted to say that you look amazing and I hope you have a great day.”

I almost spit my coffee on him. I was wearing an outfit I had found crumpled up in the corner of my room and had put on absolutely no makeup that morning. The definition of a complete mess. I couldn’t remember the last time a stranger had given me such a genuine compliment. I thanked him and wished him a great day, too.

My point here: Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are special. So special that it’s taking the Universe a really long damn time to find someone who is on the same frequency as us.

Don’t ever feel like the time you spent getting to know this person was wasted because you may have given them a little boost like that guy in the coffee shop did for me. You left a little part of yourself with this person, even if you feel like they aren’t worthy of it right now.

Don’t force anything, as much as I hate to say it, it will come. It’s either a lesson or it’s love. How you react to it is entirely up to you.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

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I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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