Obviously when you're dating someone it's easy to feel jealous when you see your partner talking to a person of the opposite sex, snapchat them or like a girl’s picture who isn’t you. You get that weird feeling in your stomach if you see someone flirting with your significant other, or checking them out. It's a normal feeling, because you care about the person and you have feelings for them, so you don't want anyone else threatening that. But there's a point when jealousy goes a little too far. Suddenly you find yourself creeping through the girl's Instagram who you saw your boyfriend talking to earlier that day, or you are constantly asking them questions about that person. Or you start comparing yourself to the pictures he likes on Instagram. Those habits are pretty unhealthy, but I think it's something everyone who has gotten jealous before can relate to.
Of course there are going to be people who do not have the right intentions who you don’t want talking to your significant other, but it can be hard to distinguish between bad and good intentions. Jealousy can seriously affect your self-esteem and if you start to obsess over it, it can really start to push your partner away.
So, when dealing with jealousy I think the best thing to do is be confident. If your S.O. really wanted someone else they wouldn’t be with you, and if they do…they definitely do not deserve you anyways. Trust the person. If you’re dating someone you have to trust them, because without it, what kind of relationship is that? It’s hard to think about your boyfriend/girlfriend going to a party with a bunch of other girls/guys without you, but if you can’t trust them, you’re in for a long night of worrying. Jealousy can also get to the point where your bf/gf “won’t let you” do something. If if gets to that point, and you haven’t done anything to breach the trust of them, the jealousy has gone way too far for anyone’s good. So before it gets to that point, and before you accidentally like a picture from 52 weeks ago of the girl your boyfriend was talking to as you are Instagram stalking her, remember that your partner is with you for a reason. There’s no point in comparing yourself to other girls, or freaking yourself out over someone who could just be a friend.
I’m definitely not saying it’s easy to see someone else getting attention from the person you are dating, or seeing another girls' name pop up on their phone but it’s feeling confident enough in yourself and in your relationship to brush it off. There is nothing wrong about feeling skeptical about other people infringing on your relationship, but there is always going to be people of the opposite sex around your partner. So it’s better to remember that your partner is with you for a reason, and there is no point in stressing yourself out about the other girls he “might” like more than you. Be confident and don’t be insecure, girl.
