I don't typically care about stories posted in the celebrity tabloids, mainly because why do I care about rich people and their problems? However, a recent story regarding Sean Penn 54 years old, and the 24 year old daughter of actor Vincent D'Onoforio surfaced about their budding romance. The comments left by people were particularly unkind, and extremely judgmental. He's old enough to be her father. he's a pervert. It actually made me feel bad for the new couple who are so clearly in the honeymoon phase and so very happy.
I'm 24 years old, and I'm married. My husband is 46...which makes him 22 years older than i am. I know how it feels to have people judge my happiness all because my husband happened to be born 22 years before me. The comments about how he too is old enough to be my father, or how could we have anything in common with so many years between us? At first, i would fight back, and try to make people understand. However, the last few years together i realized i couldn't make people understand what they don't know. Just like these new couple can't make people understand that happiness takes many forms despite age.
Despite our age difference, my husband and i have many things in common. We like the same music, the same movies, and he in general is an amazing man. Who has taught me to be a better person for being with him. We teach each other things about being better people and about life. I've always been deemed an "old soul" to it makes sense to me that i would end up with someone not of my generation. It's never bothered me. Even when people try to ruin my happiness, by either making stupid age jokes or insinuating that he is my sugar daddy. That's the worst part of it i think, to have people judge my character. Or to judge my husbands character.
I don't judge people by who the're with. How is that my business? Like how is it the business of other people who i'm with, or who i marry. I could be with someone my age and then what? This doesn't apply to all people my age, but more often than not the men of my generation are not settled in themselves or lives, and often their maturity level is that of a child. Does that sound judgmental? Maybe, however, that's my opinion based off experience. I'd never try to put down someone who was happy with their spouse.
Obviously there are many differences between Sean Penn, the daughter of Vincent D'Onforio, and my situation. But one thing is universal, age. The difference doesn't make anyone less capable of loving another, or that there are some hidden motives by other party. It is not my place, nor anyone else's to pass judgement on people who seem happy and enjoying their lives. We have developed a society that is so concerned with the way others lives their lives and try to turn up their noses and make their lives seem superior.
Life lesson, don't judge others. please. people live their own lives, and manage their own happiness. it is nobody's job to pass judgement and make their lives more superior than others. So while i'm here with my "old husband" happily, i wonder where these other judgmental people will be?
