I Formed A Friend Group With High School Friends After I Graduated, And Honestly I Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

I Formed A Friend Group With High School Friends After I Graduated, And Honestly I Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

We're in four different cities, but couldn't be closer.


A lot of people have friend groups in high school, college, and beyond into their adult years. These groups are the people you call on when you want to go see that new movie, try that new restaurant, or just don't want to be alone for an entire day. You usually have something in common that binds you together, which is why my friend group is so uncommon. You see, we were friends in high school, but we weren't a "friend group." We hung out with each other, but not all together, until after I graduated high school. My friends and I span two years and three months in age difference, so at the moment two of us are juniors in college, one is a sophomore, two are freshmen, and one is a senior in high school. Let me tell you a little bit about these friends of mine, and why our friend group is one of the best things in my life.

We chose each other instead of letting life choose us for ourselves.

Victoria Tarkington

Most of the time, like I said earlier, friend groups are formed as a consequence of life. You form groups with the people in your school or work, and a lot of the times you're only friends because of that common ground you share. This gives you a few years as friends but then may never talk again. For us, even though we all go to church together back home, we weren't all that close until we started graduating. We could have easily just simply been friendly to each other when we came home from college, but instead, we chose to become friends.

We support each other, no matter what.

We're each other's biggest fans, and are on each other's side 100% of the time, even when one of us might be in the wrong. Not necessarily in a "you did no wrong" way, but more in a "you might have messed up, but I'm here for you and I'm gonna have your back through this". Thankfully nothing too terrible has happened to any of us so far, but I know that we would be there to pray for each other, and anything else needed throughout any rough patches in the future.

We always have a good time together.

Victoria Tarkington

One of the greatest parts of our friendship is our "game days." These are exactly what they sound like-days of games. We'll spend hours goofing off and playing games, many of which are stupid and wouldn't make sense to anyone but us. Game days are a cure for any bad day you've had - this is a proven fact.

I realize many people aren't friends with people from high school after graduation, but I consider myself one of the lucky ones, because I can honestly say they are some of my greatest friends, and I'm so glad this unlikely friend group was formed.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Here's What Happens When All Of Your Friends Have Babies

All of my friends back home are married with children. No, really, they are.


Over the past few months, three of my friends have shared their pregnancy news with me, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Baby news always stirs up a range of emotions for me. I'm excited and crying happy tears (no joke, I started to cry when my best friend told me and showed me her ultrasound).

Being "Auntie Meg" brings me such great joy. You see, I absolutely adore children, especially my friend's kiddos. They can easily brighten up my day with their giggles, love you, and their goodbye kisses & waves. I absolutely love getting to be "Auntie Meg"; it could potentially be my favorite role to fill.

I don't think I've ever loved human beings more than I love these babies. These are kiddos I would do almost anything for; they truly have my whole heart and I couldn't be more thankful for each and every one of them. I've loved getting to watch my friends grow into incredible parents.

I love getting to be one of the biggest cheerleaders for my friends and their kids. Listen, I can't wait for the day when they are older and are asking to come over more and spend time doing fun things with auntie Meg. I can't wait to watch them grow and I can't wait to be able to come alongside them and be a shoulder to cry on and one of the loudest voices cheering them on (Next to mom and dad, of course).

While there is just so much good about your friends growing up and having children of their own, if you are not careful, it can also fuel a person's self-doubt.

It can bring up questions like, "am I good enough?", "what is wrong with me?", "why am I not where they are at?" I would be lying if I said that I have never thought or felt these things, but here's the thing: you are good enough, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and their path is not your path; you will get there when you get there.

Those things are so important to remember in times when you begin to doubt yourself or your worth.

Believe me, you are good enough, there is nothing wrong with you, and that is not the path you need to be on at the moment. This is a great time for you to focus on you and the things you want out of life. What are your goals? What is on your bucket list? Just because you don't have the things your friends have, doesn't make your life any less fulfilled than theirs is. Your life is just as wonderful and fulfilling as theirs is, just in different ways.

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