I Formed A Friend Group With High School Friends After I Graduated, And Honestly I Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

I Formed A Friend Group With High School Friends After I Graduated, And Honestly I Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

We're in four different cities, but couldn't be closer.


A lot of people have friend groups in high school, college, and beyond into their adult years. These groups are the people you call on when you want to go see that new movie, try that new restaurant, or just don't want to be alone for an entire day. You usually have something in common that binds you together, which is why my friend group is so uncommon. You see, we were friends in high school, but we weren't a "friend group." We hung out with each other, but not all together, until after I graduated high school. My friends and I span two years and three months in age difference, so at the moment two of us are juniors in college, one is a sophomore, two are freshmen, and one is a senior in high school. Let me tell you a little bit about these friends of mine, and why our friend group is one of the best things in my life.

We chose each other instead of letting life choose us for ourselves.

Victoria Tarkington

Most of the time, like I said earlier, friend groups are formed as a consequence of life. You form groups with the people in your school or work, and a lot of the times you're only friends because of that common ground you share. This gives you a few years as friends but then may never talk again. For us, even though we all go to church together back home, we weren't all that close until we started graduating. We could have easily just simply been friendly to each other when we came home from college, but instead, we chose to become friends.

We support each other, no matter what.

We're each other's biggest fans, and are on each other's side 100% of the time, even when one of us might be in the wrong. Not necessarily in a "you did no wrong" way, but more in a "you might have messed up, but I'm here for you and I'm gonna have your back through this". Thankfully nothing too terrible has happened to any of us so far, but I know that we would be there to pray for each other, and anything else needed throughout any rough patches in the future.

We always have a good time together.

Victoria Tarkington

One of the greatest parts of our friendship is our "game days." These are exactly what they sound like-days of games. We'll spend hours goofing off and playing games, many of which are stupid and wouldn't make sense to anyone but us. Game days are a cure for any bad day you've had - this is a proven fact.

I realize many people aren't friends with people from high school after graduation, but I consider myself one of the lucky ones, because I can honestly say they are some of my greatest friends, and I'm so glad this unlikely friend group was formed.

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

Somehow a 15' x 12' room became a home.


Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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What I Wish I Knew About Life After High School Before I Had To Live It

Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

Anne Marie Bonadio

Just know that life in college isn't all easy, breezy, and beautiful like Covergirl. It's hard and you will struggle whether it be in school or with your friends. College isn't always complete freedom. You'll be tied down with school and life and you won't have the free time that you always imagined. You won't always be best friends with your high school friends. You won't be taking those road trips because you won't be able to afford them, and if you're like me, your parents won't let you.

College won't be exactly what you dreamed it'll be, but it'll be some of the best years of your life.

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