When I Give You Advice, It Isn't Meant To Scold You
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When I Give You Advice, It Isn't Meant To Scold You

I just want to help.

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When I Give You Advice, It Isn't Meant To Scold You
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Being the person that I am, I often take pride in being able and willing to help others get through challenging or difficult situations in their lives. I know I may not always have the right answer, and I may not always know what is the best course of action, but I always try my best. I tend to let my mom-like instincts get the best of me a lot of the time, and I fear that people think I'm judging them. This is never the case. I will never judge anyone on their decisions or life path, but I always want to make sure that the people around me are safe and cared for. I will support what you do, and try my best to make it better. I will be by your side no matter what.

When I make suggestions or try to find a way to help, I'm not scolding you. I'm not judging the way you live. I'm not here to tell you to stop doing what you're doing, or how to live your life. I simply want to make sure you are safe. I want to make sure you know the options you have in your choices, and the ones that I feel would be the best for you. I try to keep an objective point of view and look at all sides of a situation so that I can help advise what would be best. I never want to see anyone in my life get hurt or get sick, or put themselves in a potentially harmful situation. In that way, it may seem like I'm controlling your choices and making the decisions for you. But this is not the case. I am always fighting for the best for you and I want you to be happy and be able to keep yourself away from stress and pain and sadness as best as possible.

Life can be challenging, we all know that. We may not always make the best choices and we may not always know the best option that will have the happiest outcome. We're going to make mistakes and learn from them. But in my experiences, I try to give help whenever I can and take the burden off of the people I care about. I want to make this life easier to live, and a happier experience because life is too short for people to be constantly worrying. Your choices may not always follow what I believe, and they may not always be practical or safe or healthy. But that doesn't mean it doesn't matter to me. That doesn't mean I won't help you if things get rough, or if you lose your way and can't find what you're looking for.

In an ideal world, I would love to see the people I care about be healthy and happy on their own, without any kind of aids (drugs, alcohol, toxic relationships, etc) to help them get by. but I know that is unrealistic I know that's asking for the impossible. So in the meantime, I will always be here to give my support when it's needed, even when it may not necessarily be wanted. I will give advice on how I see the situation best, but I will support what you decide. I am not here to stop your fun or judge your life choices. I am not here to say that I'm better than you or to say your choices are inferior simply because they don't align with my own beliefs. Everyone is entitled to live their own life and learn from their own mistakes. But please just know that if you need anything, whether I agree or not, I will always be here for you. I will not ask questions if you don't want me to, and I will take care of you as best as I can if you ever need me. Please don't get mad at me when I try to give advice, I only want the best for you. I will always fight to protect you and respect the choices you make. AND if things go bad, I will be here to help you through the tough times as well. Please just be safe, and take care of yourself. Your life is too valuable to handle it in any other way.

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