Since starting at Brenau in August, I often find myself looking around wondering what to do and seeking guidance from adults. I then realized that wait — I am an adult, too — and I am epically failing at it. So then I started seeking adults that were wiser than I was about life — you know, an adultier adult. An adult who has been through this chapter of life and guess what ... they survived. I decided that I would adopt an adultier adult to show me guidance and be there on the rough days. So, what makes this person so wonderful?
1. They tell it like it is
There is no sugar coating. They will tell you when you need to focus more on your studies or when you really need to take a break and get more rest. They keep you accountable without being demanding. This also means that when they praise you, they mean it! They are awesome with giving pep talks or pick-me-ups to get through the day.
2. They are relatable
They are just slightly ahead of you in their stage in life. They have gone through some of the same situations, they listen to the same music, they shop at the same places and they are open to sharing aspects of their life with you as well.
3. They are a role model
Even at just a few years older, you often find yourself looking up to this individual. This person has obviously done something to earn your trust and respect. They carry themselves in a way that you look up to. They have a radiant confidence about them.
4. They do not realize their impact
The individual I look up to always denies that she is a better adult and says that she is failing at being a good adult. While she may feel that way, I think she's pretty awesome. I am guilty of this as well, but we often find ourselves looking up to leadership and our elders for affirmation of our success. Sometimes we need to look at those following in our footsteps and what we did to better their path. My individual not only leaves a smile on others faces when she leaves, she also isn't afraid to do what is right to blaze a path for the future.
5. They are always there
From the random text conversations, snapchats and the daily life update talks, they are there for the good and the bad. They listen, they offer advice and they are living proof that this crazy ride called college is worth it. They are also proof that it is OK to admit that you don't know what you are doing.
Sometimes to succeed in the future, we need to look to those who came before us for advice, support and a nudge to help get through the rough spots. After all, you yourself may be someone's adultier adult one day.
Thank you to Annie Johnston for being my role model during this part of my life. You do not know the impact that you have had on my life and my experience here at Brenau so far.
