An Open Letter To My Best Friend

To My Best Friend, What Would I Do Without You?

This is basically just a love letter for my best friend Maria.


I seem to be a person who is obsessed with the idea of a soulmate, someone who I will instantly connect with and form an extremely powerful bond with. I share these deep thoughts about this idea of "soulmates" with my friend Maria, but the irony of the whole thing is that she pretty much is my soulmate. I have never met someone who compliments me so well and she's truly an angel. Maria is the first person I will text while in a sappy rage of sad feelings (which happens more often than one would think) and she provides the ultimate cure for these crazy emotions. The amount of comfort we have gained in talking with each other is something that is impossible to ignore when evaluating how far we've come as friends. The most important thing to note about our friendship is that we both have different struggles as humans, but we learn so much from each other and help each other to grow from experiences rather than pandering on them.

Maria (pictured right) and I at a friend's gigJacqueline Napier

Maria and I first became really close in our freshman year Biology class at our high school. We sat next to each other and I admired her sense of humor that some people were honestly scared of. We continued being friends throughout high school, having lunch together our senior year, and going to each other's graduation parties. Keeping in touch with her after high school was something that just seemed natural, because (not to be dramatic) Maria makes my life full. Today, Maria and I don't get to see each other as much as we used to when we were in the same building five days a week, but it seems like our friendship has only grown stronger. We text each other pretty much every day and whenever we get in the car together, the conversation erupts. The magic in our friendship is that we never run out of things to talk about, whether we're talking about zodiac sign compatibility or our favorite movies.

Maria and I at our Senior PromJacqueline Napier

Maria is the type of person who radiates happiness, even if she's not feeling the same way. She makes sure that by the end of any social event, everyone is a little bit closer to each other. Her personality shines through at all times and it is crazy how many friends I've made just from her ability to make conversation with almost anyone. I appreciate Maria so much in whatever form she comes in as she's acted as a wing woman, a therapist, and a best friend to me over the course of our relationship. I'm so grateful for her and if you're reading this and you have a friend like Maria, please let them know how much you appreciate them.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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