9 Things To Do When You're Single In College Besides Focusing On A Man

9 Things To Do When You're Single In College Besides Focusing On A Man

Because why not?

There is this cool concept I learned about in college called cuffing season. And by cool, I mean incredibly sad.

For those of you unfamiliar with the term, it refers to the fall and winter period in which the summer months dwindle and the need to have a honey grows at increasing rates. This so-called cuffing season isn’t the only season of the year where a single lady might be wishing she had her Jay-Z, though.

As January falls to a close, February approaches the itch resurfaces. And we all know what February is — red and pink everywhere and the season of love and adorable dates floods the streets and social media feeds. I’ve decided I might hibernate next month instead of facing all the cute couples.

That being said, maybe being a college student, there is more to celebrate in February than just guys picking up their dolls for a night on the town.

I vote we start celebrating ourselves this valentine’s day and learn to love yourself for how gosh darn wonderful you are without a man (or woman). These are some things that you can accomplish while being single this spring, because this is the time for you to be happy being you, not be happy being with a man. Happiness comes from within, not from a man.

1. Study abroad

Let’s face it, nothing is holding you back. No boyfriend back home for you to miss, and it will never be cheaper than now. Take some beautiful pictures in some beautiful places.

2. Find your style

Figure out which clothes make you feel most comfortable! Make a Pinterest board that includes all those sweaters and cute cheetah pumps you’re going to rock!

3. Take on another class this semester

Don’t bog yourself down, but if you feel like you can handle it, try a class that interests you! Better yourself, boo!

4. Find your coffee shop

Make it your second home, try different drinks and make sure the baristas know your name, become a regular. People watch, look your best, embrace your inner new Yorkers and sip on your cappuccino, sweetie!

5. Get in shape!

This is the only time in your life you’ll have an (arguably) free gym, take advantage of it! Look good, Feel good!

6. Find your voice

I cannot stress how important it is to find yourself before finding the one. Discover your passions, read up on things that interest you. Write in a journal and learn to love your own voice. It will get stronger & louder, I promise, even if it starts with a whisper.

7. Start a blog

You don’t even have to tell anyone about it. It can be your digital diary. That way, you can upload your pictures that we all know you love. Take time at least once a month to go back and re-read the posts that you have made. Appreciate the good times!

8. Join an Org

Find an organization on campus that you feel passionate about or one that would benefit your future. Go all in! Maybe try out executive board and spread all those wonderful ideas swirling in your head! Don’t be afraid. Be confident and get out there!

9. Practice self-care

Even though being single does come with more time and I can preach about it all I want, don’t shove down feelings you’re feeling. If you’re down, grab a facemask, take some silly selfies and read a book.

Remember these things this valentines day season! You are so capable of being great, all on your own.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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It's Time For Romance Movies To Start Portraying Love And Relationships More Accurately

It's 2019, get with the times.


Currently, on TV and in the movies, many romance movies have the same storyline. If it's on Hallmark, two people fall in love and complete some kind of mission. If it's in the movies two people date/fall in love, something causes them to break up, then they get back together and everyone lives happily ever after.

The problem is that all of these plots are seriously unrealistic.

All of these movies and TV shows just inaccurately portray how a relationship works in real life. A real relationship takes a lot of work, time, and effort. Not everything is candy canes, unicorns, and comes so easily. There are so many other factors that people have to think about.

I really got into watching these romantic type movies when I started watching PG-13 movies. I would watch them and picture all my relationships going this way. But these movies painted the wrong picture of relationships. I'm not saying my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend at all, he is wonderful! But we both have learned it takes a lot of work, time, effort, and communication. These are things very few romance movies teach us.

Also, everyone expects things from their significant others from what they see in these movies. I was one of those people, but then real life hit. There are bills, jobs, and time management that you have to consider. This doesn't mean that my boyfriend and I don't go out, but we have to choose wisely for what we do and when we do it! We have also found fun things to do at home in place of going out in order to save money.

I understand that many people like to watch these programs and enjoy them. But there needs to be a change to accurately portray a relationship. Personally, I think this is why many young people's relationships don't last - they have watched this easy relationship develop and stay in a movie and they haven't seen what it is like in real life.

So, to those who produce these types of movies and shows, it's time that you start making things more realistic.

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