The vast majority of us have attended a wedding or two in our lifetime thus far, but what we don’t realize is that there are some similarities between weddings: our thoughts. Many of us have a variety of feelings about the marriage and the people included, but we have the same thoughts during the entire entourage of the wedding. Here are a few.

1. When will this start?

The typical partygoer is there to celebrate the marriage sure, but mostly for the free food and an excuse to trap the kids with the babysitter. You would be surprised by how many people are impatient for it to start, though.

2. Will they last?

It is a question that no one wants to say out loud. Will this currently happy couple last? Or will this entire thing end in a messy divorce in a year or so? Sometimes we automatically know the answer, but it isn’t always that we are sure they are soulmates.

3. When is my wedding?

This is mostly geared toward the females, but we all wonder when it will be our turn to send out fancy invitations to relatives whose names we barely know. We wonder who it will be to, or when they will even pop the question. Weddings are romantic and can make for a good date, but they also spark feelings of romanticism.

4. They look so happy.

Everyone watches the couple of the hour, and everyone notices the brilliant smiles on their faces. We all wish for a similar happiness, but theirs is contagious for now.

5. This is the only time he is allowed to cry.

I have yet to be to a wedding that didn’t include the groom crying. Those tears are probably the most we have ever seen from that man, but it isn’t bad, it is good. Us females are watching and wondering if our husband will be crying, but the men wonder if their spouse to be will be worth those tears in front of everyone he knows.

6. How is the food going to be?

Like I said, most of us are there for the food. Will it be a buffet, or is it an actual meal that is served to us? Did they hire a cheap cater or the good one with that secret gravy that blows your mind? Will it be filling, or should you get your insulin ready to raid the dessert table?

7. The ceremony was beautiful.

Even the simplest of weddings have a certain beauty to them. Whether they went all out or decided on a simplistic courthouse wedding, there is a certain edge to it that compliments them as a couple and makes it nice and sweet.

8. They have a lot/little friends.

We all see the groomsmen and bridesmaids standing up beside them. Sometimes there are ten of each, and sometimes there are only one or two each. It poses the question of how many friends they have or lack. It is kind of an interesting thought.

9. What do I want for my wedding?

Aside from questioning when your wedding will occur, the next step is trying to decide what you liked and didn’t like about their wedding and what you would like to use. Stealing ideas and such. Did you like their season choice? Location choice? Food choice? Everything that goes into a wedding is a choice that most of us play through our head and decide if we would’ve done it the same for our own big days.