8 Unfortunate Problems With Opening Up To People
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8 Unfortunate Problems With Opening Up To People

But maybe the last problem isn't so much of a problem as it is a rise to self-love.

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Everybody hurts.

Everybody wants someone to be there and care for them when they are in the midst and depths of hurting.

But opening up and being vulnerable is tough — it's hard to look into someone else's eyes and trust them with the knowledge and explanation of your pain. Some people misuse that power and hold the pain against you.

Here are the eight unfortunate scenarios with opening up to people that a lot of us don't talk about:

1. They don't care and you start to think what you feel is unimportant.

2. They'll never know the right thing to say: you end up comforting yourself better because you know the words you want to hear.

3. They don't know your experiences, so they don't understand why you feel what you feel.

4. They immediately try to offer you advice when really, all you needed was just someone to listen.

5. They later bring up the heart's truth that you told them and subtly use it against you

6. They try to immediately show you the bright side, but you just want to be allowed to feellllll, ya know?

7. You feel so vulnerable and so exposed... and sometimes after telling someone, you realize they were not the right person to tell.

8. You realize that as long as you are there for yourself, that really is all that matters...so no matter what happens — no matter who isn't there for you — you still got you. And maybe these aren't problems at all if you know that.<3 

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