7 Ways to Keep Her Yours

7 Ways to Keep Her Yours

You have to cherish your girl every day even after you get her, or you'll lose her for sure.

How do you lose your girl? You forget to cherish her." Although that comes from Suite Life and Zack and Cody, no truer words have ever been spoken. You don't just casually "lose your girl," so here are 7 ways to keep your girl at your side.

1. Don't forget important dates

Birthdays, anniversaries, and just casual dates, are important. To any girl, those things are important, even if she says they're not, they are. You don't have to make huge deals out of it, but don't forget. Just a simple text reminder if you're busy that day, could do wonders for her.

2. Make time for her

We all get busy, I get that, she'll get that. But it only takes a minute to text her and say you're busy and that you can't talk much and possibly won't see her. One minute, that's all. And when you're not busy, it's important to spend time with her.

3. Good morning and Good night texts go a long way

If you can't kiss her at the start and end of each day, the least you can do is texts her a message with the same intentions. A girl will smile for hours thinking about that, and won't stop thinking about it for days. She'll likely screenshot and gush to her friends about how adorable her boy is.

4. Compliment/Praise Her

I know she can be difficult and a pain in the a** at times but she's trying. She's your ride or die, and she'd do anything for you. And sometimes she just needs to be told that she's doing a good job. She may act like she's got it all together, but sometimes, she just needs reassuring that shes a rock star in all she does, school, church, being a girlfriend, all of it.

5. Don't brush her off

That b*tch she doesn't trust? That exam she's nervous for? Her thoughts on your friends? She normally knows what's up and if you brush her off a lot, who's she supposed to go to? Her best friend? Sure, she could but as her boyfriend you should be listening to her, you should trust her. She's your girl and you should act like it and give her the time of day to genuinely listen to her.

6. Get Physical

Oh Lord, get your head of the gutter. Hugs, kisses, holding hands, touching her butt, stroking her hair, all those things are important. Not just sex. Keep her close. When in doubt, touch her, squeeze her. Because physically contact is oh so important in keeping your love alive.

7. Don't stop dating her.

Even after getting her, don't stop trying to get her. Don't forget to cherish her! It doesn't matter if you've been together 3 days, 3 months, 3 years, or 30 years, you should never stop trying to get her. Keep going on dates with her. Keep dancing with her. Keep reminding her how gorgeous she is. Because Lord knows, the minute you stop, is the minute you lose her. Ya you might not break up until months after that, but you lost her already the day you forgot how important she is.

Although this article is geared at how to keep your girl, ladies you can't forget to cherish him too. You can't treat him like a servant that's only there to bless you and in return expect him to treat you like a queen. That's not how relationships work. Relationships are 100/100, you both put in equal amounts of effort and you both treat each other like the royalty that you are. Because if you don't you'll lose each other.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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What, In My Opinion, Guys Really Want In A Girl

It may not be as simple as you think.


I've recently started "watching" this show with my wife called "Paradise Hotel" or something like that. I think it's on Fox. It's pretty much a competition to see who can make it as a "couple" the longest or till the end to win a ton of money. It's a reality show that is filled with drama and hot bodies and more drama. I watch this show because, honestly I kind of like the drama, and my wife watches it so what the heck.

We were watching it the other day and there was an opportunity for two more girls to be put on the show. As the other guys asked questions and got to know these potential women, I told my wife which girl they guys would pick. She picked the others over the one I said, because of their "bodies." However, the girl I picked was the one whom the guys picked. My wife looked at me and said "How did you do that?"

Here's the deal: Guys have been SO poorly shown to be all about certain looks and nothing else. And this simply isn't true.

I should put a disclaimer here: I'm referring to "guys" as (mostly) mature men who are into dating and have their crap together. This doesn't include boys who just want their 2 minutes of relief and are just aimlessly guiding through life.

Okay so yes, A LOT of what guys look for is looks. I can't sugar-coat that or lie about it. No guy I know will date a girl whom he doesn't find attractive. That doesn't mean that if one guy doesn't go for a certain lady, that she is ugly or whatever. It means that one guy doesn't find her attractive, but plenty others might! To each their own.

So yes, looks are important and a must. But there are so many more attributes that are important:

These could be a fun and outgoing personality, a sense of humor, confidence in your looks and self-identify, and some maturity. I know guys can be really really immature, but there are a lot of girls out their with women's bodies and a child's mind.

We also love a girl who respects herself. And understands what a man needs. Men do need respect. It's something that we crave and have to have. Women should be respected as well. I'm not advocating that respect is a one-way street. But having a girl who admires and respects who we are (once we earn their trust) is just a necessity.

Another couple things that are a must for guys is to not be freaking psycho. I know all women (and people for that matter) have their emotional outbursts. I don't think I'm being sexist to say that women, in general, might be more emotional people than men because of hormones and stuff... although I've seen plenty of men who need to stop being such wimps. But psycho and loud women just get on our last nerves.

Maybe I didn't answer any of your questions, but maybe this gave you a bit of an idea of what we want and look for in the women we want to date and eventually settle down for life with.

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