We all know supporting our friends is important, but sometimes it’s hard to know how to help. Here’s my breakdown on the best ways to help a friend who’s having a hard time:

1. Listen.

Sometimes, just knowing someone is there for you can make all the difference. Sit down for a meal with a friend or have a cup of coffee with them at Wilson. Making someone feel heard is validating and keeps them from feeling alone in their struggles.

2. Ask what they need.

Maybe they just need a hug or a shoulder to cry on, maybe they need someone to walk them to the counseling center or help them approach a residential life member. Listen, and do whatever is in your power to help.

3. Practice empathy.

Empathy is the best way create connection, make someone feel heard and validated and show support. What exactly is empathy? Check out this video by Brené Brown to find out.

4. Encourage them to seek the help they need.

Getting the right kind of help is vital, and sometimes people may need a little push before they can reach out. Admitting you need help is scary, and the support and encouragement of a friend makes it that much easier. Check out this link for a list of resources at Middlebury.

5. Speak up.

If you’re worried, talk to them about it. If they’re not getting the help they need, don’t be afraid to approach an RA, FYC or CRA. They’re trained to know how to deal with these situations, and can connect people to the right resources.

6. Make time for them.

On our busy, high-pressure campus, it can be easy to let relationships fall to the wayside. But making time for friends will benefit you and them, and create support and connection.

7. Give them a hug! Sometimes, you just need a hug.

I hope that you take the time to reach out a check in with a friend today. Take the first step toward making a difference for someone who's struggling.