7 Lessons I Learned In 2017

7 Lessons I Learned In 2017

It was a year full of big lessons and bigger blessings.

Well, we've done it, people. We've some how managed to finish the Christmas madness of 2017, yay! Now we're about to start a whole new year. Many people feel the need to do New Year's resolutions, but I'd like to just take the time to say that I'm not doing one because I never stick with it anyways. Therefore, this article is about valuable lessons that I have learned in 2017 (some are still a work in progress for me). I hope they speak to you and that you can relate, enjoy. :)

I. Loving yourself is so important.

I'm learning that life gets more tough the older you get. Self love is an important thing to have. Without self love, you allow yourself to settle for things that you know you don't deserve. And sadly, because of that, you allow yourself to get hurt in the process. Loving yourself is actually the core to being happy. If you're not happy with yourself, you'll never be happy with anyone or anything in life. I'm not perfect in this category by no means, it's a work in progress.

II. Boys will be boys.

I have seen so many girls, myself included, dealing with pettiness from boys that they do not deserve. If they are only texting you at certain times, calling you when they're drunk, and then disappearing for months and suddenly popping back in with the "I miss you" texts.. just don't respond. Don't do it. Especially do not give a second chance to someone who did nothing but pursue you and then drop you for no reason. Do not let them play mind games with you, because I promise you, if they are doing any of those things, it's mind games. If you feel as though they aren't willing to pursue you one hundred percent with zero hesitations or shadiness, don't even take a second glance. You do not have to have a boy to be happy.

III. Not everybody is permanent.

There will be people in your life who are literally only there for a lesson. Whether it be friends or significant others. There are people who you thought were your friends and they turned out to stab you in the back, people who you were friends with that the friendship just fizzled out, boys who were potential boyfriends but it never took off like it should've. These people taught you a personal lesson about life. What to say, what not to say, what to put up with and not put up with, what to expect and so on. Don't look back and regret it (easier said than done) just take the lesson and move on. God is preparing you.

IV. Keep your circle small.

This world is going crazy to be honest. And I've learned friendship is one of the greatest gifts. Having friends you know that you can trust makes it that much greater. While losing some people in my life, I've also gained. My circle is small but I trust them with my life. They're my greatest secret keepers and the best advice givers, and I wouldn't change that for anything. I got insanely lucky with my circle.

V. Not everyone is going to be your number 1 fan.

I just felt this one was necessary to follow number 4. But just remember, not everybody wants the best for you. It's sad but it's the way some people are. You can do everything right and they will still want to see you fail. And because of this, not everybody deserves the chance to have an inside look at your life. Just be cautious.

VI. Family is the number one greatest gift.

My family is my backbone. Without them I would be absolutely nothing. They have my back through every peak and every valley. I know it's cliche, but my family truly is the greatest. It breaks my heart that some people can't say the same about their family and get to experience a love that is so forgiving and unconditional.

VII. It is okay to not be okay.

I saved the best for last. To me, this year has been tough. College is stressful. And while college is stressful, so is trying to figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life. And the dreaded family dinners when they ask, "what's your major?" or my personal favorite, "what are you going to do with your life?". When you reply with you don't know, they act shocked or say "you've been in college for so and so years and you don't know?". You reply with no and they try to counsel you with "well what do you enjoy?" or "what do you see yourself doing?". It used to bother me. But now, I just don't even care. Because I've learned it's okay not to know the answer to those questions.. not right away at least. I mean, I'm only 21 years old. I still have plenty of time to figure it out. So, it's okay to not be okay sometimes, and not know what your plan and purpose is. You still have time. And everything will fall into place when it's supposed to. Just believe in that.

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10 Things I Threw Out AFTER Freshman Year Of College

Guess half the stuff on your packing list doesn't really matter

I spent the entire summer before my freshman year of college so WORRIED.

I also spent most of my money that summer on miscellaneous dorm stuff. I packed the car when the time finally came to move in, and spent the drive up excited and confused about what the heck was actually going on.

Freshman year came and went, and as I get ready to go back to school in just a few short weeks (!!), I'm starting to realize there's just a whole bunch of crap I just don't need.

After freshman year, I threw out:

1. Half my wardrobe.

I don't really know what I was thinking of owning 13 sweaters and 25 T-shirts in the first place. I wear the same five T-shirts until I magically find a new one that I probably got for free, and I put on jeans maybe four times. One pair is enough.

2. Half my makeup.

Following in the theme of #1, if I put on makeup, it's the same eyeliner-mascara combination as always. Sometimes I spice it up and add lipstick or eyeshadow.

3. My vacuum.


One, I basically never did it. Two, if I REALLY needed to vacuum, dorms rent out cleaning supplies.

4. Most of my photos from high school.

I didn't throw them ALL away, but most of them won't be making a return to college. Things change, people change, your friends change. And that's okay.

5. Excess school supplies.

Binders are heavy and I am lazy. I surprisingly didn't lose that many pens, so I don't need the fifty pack anymore. I could probably do without the crayons.

6. Cups/Plates/Bowls/Silverware.

Again, I am lazy. I cannot be bothered to wash dishes that often. I'll stick to water bottles and maybe one coffee cup. Paper plates/bowls can always be bought, and plastic silverware can always be stolen from different places on campus.

7. Books.

I love to read, but I really don't understand why I thought I'd have the time to actually do it. I think I read one book all year, and that's just a maybe.

8. A sewing kit.

I don't even know how to sew.

9. Excessive decorations.

It's nice to make your space feel a little more cozy, but not every inch of the wall needs to be covered.

10. Throw pillows.

At night, these cute little pillows just got tossed to the floor, and they'd sit there for days if I didn't make my bed.

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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