6 Things I Hope My Future Self Will Remember, When The Time Comes

6 Things I Hope My Future Self Will Remember, When The Time Comes

Blessings that we sometimes forget about.

To my Future Self,

You are changing. You are changing physically, you are changing emotionally, and you are changing mentally. No matter where this change resides, it has happened.

This is me and this is my reminder to my future self.

1. Family

Remember where you came from. Family will always be an important component in your life. Being a part of a traditional family is its very own blessing. I have come to realize how incredibly blessed I am to be surrounded by so much love and care. Do not forget your role as a daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece and even great granddaughter. When so much of my time is spent away from them now, I come to realize and see all the amazing life lessons that they alone have taught me. Don’t forget them. You have been taught to love the people closest to you unconditionally. You were taught to thrive as an individual. You are the source of your own happiness. Never forget that your family will be there whenever you need them. Do not forget the statuses that your family has led you to achieve as well. You are a great leader, you are a hard worker, you are a loving sister, and you are a caring daughter. Do not forget that. Without the right guidance, you would not be the person you are today and will be tomorrow.

2. Relationships

This is just the beginning. You have so many more people and relationships that you will make. With the one’s that you make, do not forget the one’s you must maintain. Remember that your family is not always by blood. You have family that you have chosen. Don’t forget the one’s you grew up with. The one’s who have always known your strengths and weaknesses, your failures, your successes. The one’s who have grown with you. Along with the old, welcome the new. Welcome the one’s who want to hear about your life. The one’s who want to learn about your values. Don’t forget to open your heart and mind to the ones who strive to learn more about you.

3. Love

Do not fear heartbreak. You were lucky to grow up in a culture where love was very prevalent. It is inevitable that you will meet people that will come and go. You will get your heart broken as you have once before, but that just means that there is someone out there who has more love and happiness to offer you. Be excited! Do not fear. Being afraid will prevent you from some of the most exciting experiences of your lifetime. If you love someone, tell them. There is no such thing as only one true love. Don’t forget that.

4. Be positive

Do not waste your time fretting over things that are not worth it. There is enough negativity in the world already. Be the yellow in someone’s life. Offer a smile to a stranger. You never know who you impact and how you impact them. You could save a life by simply choosing positivity.

5. Choose kindness

Open a door for a stranger, pay for the person in line behind you, write a letter to an old friend. The smallest acts of kindness leave the biggest impact on a person’s life. The feeling of joy and fulfillment that you get from one act of kindness can last a lifetime. There is no better feeling than knowing that you were the light in someone’s darkest day.

6. Chase your dreams

If you want to travel, do it. If you want to run a marathon, do it. If you want to eat a full tub of ice cream, do it. You can’t live a life where you are always asking “what if?” Live a life where you are always asking “remember when?” It is all the “remember when’s” that will make for great stories for your children. It’s the “remember when’s” that will bring a smile to your face years later. It is the “remember when’s” that fill your life with joy. Do not spend life regretting things you should’ve done. If you want it, go get it. Things in life won’t be handed to you. The hard work that you are putting in now will be life-changing to you later.

To my future self, never forget the most important things in your life. Remember the people who have gotten you this far; family. Remember the people who have blessed you with so many amazing memories; friends. Remember the man who has woven this successful and fulfilling path for you; God. Remember to be the yellow in a person’s life. Remember that you must work for your dreams, but the outcome will be well worth it. Remember to love unconditionally. Remember that you have changed and will continue to change. Remember, a life lead by kindness and joy is the most fulfilling life you could lead.


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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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Competition Isn’t Real, So Stop Worrying About What You Think Is Your 'Competition'

When you stop worrying about being better than "your competition," you will succeed.


"What are your plans for after College?" is the one question every college student wishes they could never hear again. After hearing those seven short words, the body of the college student is flooded with waves of irritation, paranoia, and worry.

When you set all your triggered thoughts and anxieties aside and manage to hurl out an answer, you're probably told "That's nice, but how are you going to get a job? That field is so competitive." At this point, you are probably ready to excuse yourself from the conversation for a timely breakdown.

Throughout high school, conversations at family gatherings and holiday parties typically went through this vicious cycle.

A naive junior in high school who was quick to say his major was going to be Musical Theater in college was always infuriated by the response "You'll never find work. That field is so competitive."

After a while, I started to believe it and decided to look elsewhere for a career path. I considered nursing, to where I was told how competitive college nursing programs are, and how little students they accept. I figured I wouldn't stand a chance, so I kept looking.

I circled back to the theater and was reminded by everybody how rigorous the Musical Theater college audition process was, and how they only accept a handful of kids. Surely there were other students more capable than me, and I wasn't going to let the ridiculously annoying boastful comments of theater kids ruin my search for my path in life.

My Dad always reminds me how much money I could make pursuing business, but working a 9-5 desk job dealing with hot-headed businessmen being choked by the tightness of their neckties never appealed me.

I felt fatigued like I was being told that I need to pursue what other people want me to, instead of following my dreams.

At this time I was a senior in High School, and my CommonApp was filled with prospective schools that I might attend, but the "intended major" section part of each application wasn't filled.

The loud "you can't" and "you'll NEVER get work" boomed in my ear until I was convinced I couldn't follow my dreams of becoming an actor, so I caved and intended to pursue journalism. I was told by all my teachers I was a gifted writer, so I figured it would be worth a shot.

"You can always do theater on the side," is what I heard. Now in college pursuing journalism, a field I was told: "will be one I can actually get a job in," some professors tell me after graduation, I will be doing journalism "on the side" because of how "competitive" the field is.

All occupational fields are competitive, whether that be communications, business, nursing, etc. Here is one thing that I learned through this experience and many others…

You have no competition.

In the eyes of someone who is hiring for a job, they are going to pick whoever's work they feel best fits the position. This isn't the product of a cutthroat field, it's solely the product of your work fitting the part.

You can't mash two puzzle pieces together because you THINK it's what fits, whatever is meant for you will come to you. Your puzzle pieces will fit together naturally.

In the end, it will come together to form a beautiful picture.

As for me, I decided to tune out the comments about competitive fields. What used to consume me cannot phase me anymore.

I still intend to pursue my dreams of becoming a performer, and at every audition I will remind myself that it is not the field that is competitive, there is no competition. The performer sitting next to me at an open call is not my competition, but my inspiration to work hard to find the job that will best fit me.

In the words of Cinderella, "there is one thing, they can't order me to stop dreaming."

The reporter who grabs every single story shouldn't turn me into someone who viciously grabs every story they can to build their portfolio, it should make me look for stories I WANT to tell that will progress me as a writer. After all, I am still learning.

I learned that I shouldn't belittle other people that are deemed "my competition" to disorient them, giving me a better chance at getting a job. Kindness will be more rewarding than contributing to the vicious dog-eat-dog world.

"I'm not in competition with anyone except who I used to be, and everything I do now is just an evolved version of something I've done before" -Kali Uchis

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