1. You can love someone, yet not be right for each other.
As much as you love each other, sometimes you are not perfect for each other, and that's okay. Certain people come in and out of our lives at different times to teach us lessons. They come into our lives when we need them; they leave when we need something different, even if we don't know it yet. Unfortunately, as much as you love this person, they're not it. Fortunately, you did get to spend some wonderful times and make great memories with this person. Fortunately, there is something else out there that will make you even happier--you just have to wait for it.
2. Your friends are there for you.
Even if being in a relationship makes you not as good a friend, they are still there to help catch you when falling for someone resulted in you not landing softly in his/her arms, but instead slamming your head on the concrete. They're there for you to cry to, there to reassure you it's going to be okay, and they're there to remind you that it's better to laugh than to cry. They'll remind you that you were happy before this person and will be again after. They'll let you text them instead of your ex, even if they don't understand it. Go ahead, text them, "I hate you for not being here to eat puffed tacos because I can't and I want to know what they taste like," or, "I love you, Shmoopie". They might make fun of you, tell you they want to try puffed tacos, or just send you a feel-good text. No matter what, they are your forever.
3. Your family wants the best for you.
No matter how they react, they truly want the best for you. They might be out trying to find you a lifelong partner on their own for the biggest and best dowry; they might be telling you how exciting it will be for you to be a free agent; they might just be quietly there for you. No matter what, they don't want to see you sad, but they know this is just a stepping-stone for you to get to true happiness.
4. You should still say I love you.
Whether or not you said "I love you" in your relationship, you probably miss telling that person how much you care about them. Take this moment as an opportunity to reflect on how much you care and love the people who are still in your life--and tell them. Give love to others and you will receive love in return. Be thankful for the ones who stick by your side through thick and thin and tell them you love them.
5. You've always got the Big Guy Upstairs to lean on.
When there's nights you are alone and really feel it, pull out your Bible and look for some inspiring passages to give you strength and hope. (1 Peter 1:6 and Deuteronomy 28 are crowd favorites.) If you can't sleep, grab a rosary; the repetitiveness will calm you down or put you to sleep; either one is a good thing at this point. Send up your troubles in prayer, and know that He has a plan for you. He sent you that person on purpose to change you for the better; He's got someone that will give you even more happiness and be right for you on his way. For now, just take a deep breath and trust in Him.
6. Be excited.
Okay, it will probably take some time to get to this point, but be excited about the present and the future. Right now you get to be single. You get to flirt with whoever you want, enjoy your friends, and have no attachments. Want to go to Greece with your best friend for a week? Go ahead. You don't even have to feel bad about leaving your significant other behind because you don't have one! Some day when you're living your life for you, you're going to come across someone who you can't shake. You'll get the butterflies, feel-goods, and all the feels. Your future person is out there, but until you find each other, you've just got to keep on living and be happy. That moment might be next week, months from now, or years from now, and it's going to be so exciting and wonderful. So be excited for that future, but be excited for now, too. Live and do things for yourself. learn how to make yourself happy and be excited for life in general. Make everyday a happy day because that's exactly what you deserve.
