When I was in high school, I always seemed to fall for the loudest boy in the room. Whoever drew the most attention (positive, or negative) seemed to be the boy who would draw my attention as well. Being somewhat an extrovert myself, I always knew I wanted a boy as opinionated, outgoing, and spontaneous as myself. Those types of boys let me down. Every. Single. Time. I'm not saying that extroverted guys are bad people, they just never worked for me.
My senior year of high school, I met a sweet guy, but he was so quiet that he terrified me. I hated not knowing what he was thinking, not knowing whether or not he felt the same, and trying to guess what his favorite things were. However, after two and a half years being together, taking a chance and dating that introverted guy has been one of the best decisions I have ever made.
Here are 6 reasons why introverted guys make the best boyfriends (at least for an extroverted girl).
1. Hey doesn't focus so much on being heard, but on listening. An introverted boyfriend is not going to complain when you feel the need to vent to him about school, work, or your friends and family. He will pick up on everything, because he not only listens to the words you say, but pays attention to your body language as well. Sometimes, he will know how you feel or what you think before you can even put a word to it.
2. An introverted boyfriend is always up for hanging out at home and cuddling while watching Netflix.If you don't feel like being around people, odds are he never did. He'd rather spend his time alone with you anyways, because you are his best friend. That's how it's supposed to be!
3. They have a really good head-to-mouth filter. An introvert thinks a lot about what he says before they says it. This means that he is less likely to say something harmful based on his emotions. Not only that, but if he does have a problem with you, he will word it precisely and calmly. He will know exactly how to phrase his thoughts without coming across as abrasive or hurtful.
4. You don't have to worry about cheating. An introverted guy doesn't want to be around people at all, much less girls other than you, his mom, or his sister(s). It takes a long time to get close to him, and once you are a part of his life, you are in it for the long haul. If you are dating an introvert, it means that he trusted you enough to let his guard down.
5. To go with #4, he doesn't have much of a history. Because it takes so much work to get to know an introverted guy, not many girls are willing to put forth the effort to really get to know them. In one analogy, the apples on the ground beside the tree are the easiest to get, and they are unwilling to accept the challenge of climbing to the top of the tree for the best apples. Anyways, him not having a history means you do not have to worry about crazy ex-girlfriends. It also means that he will never compare you to past loves, but love you for who you are.
6. He will love you with his actions and not simply his words. It is always said that actions speak louder than words, and for an introvert that is completely true. They do not waste time telling you what you want to hear, but show you how much they care for you in the way they hold your hand as you get out of the car, surprise you when you get off work, or take care of you when you're sick. Those kind of things mean way more than saying "I love you" in the way that it takes more time, thought and energy.
I began this article trying to make a list of why introverted boyfriends as a whole make the best boyfriends, but I feel like I mostly wrote about why MY boyfriend specifically is the best in the world. Oops! Anyways, take a chance getting to know an introverted guy. It might be harder, but I promise that sometimes the best things in life are the things we work for. Honestly, that's probably a base reason for being introverted. An introverted guy might simply be the way he is to see who is willing to take a chance on him. Once you do, he'll treasure you forever. Talk to him, get to know him, and date him. He could be the best person you will ever date, and (if you're like me) you will never want to date anyone else ever again.
