There you have it. You’ve been searching for love and you have finally found it. You two have an instant connection – many things in common. You two hang out, get to know each other better, falling deeper and deeper and…what? What do you mean you’re not ready? You just broke up with your significant other? Oh, you must not want to be with me. You just lost your job?
Oh, you must not want to be with me. You dropped out of school? Oh, you must not want to be with me. You like me, but it’s just wrong timing? Oh, you must not want to be with me. Constantly I’ve been hearing that when someone tells you it isn’t the right time, it just means they don’t want to be with you. And I strongly disagree. As a matter of fact, it means they REALLY want to be with you. But, let’s say you date this person now. Here’s what might happen:
You’re happy. You got what you wanted. Unfortunately, you didn’t allow this person to get themselves together. You didn’t give them time because you didn’t understand – wrong timing didn’t exist. A few weeks later, they’re drinking more than they can handle because they’re thinking about their ex-girlfriend.
A few weeks later, they’re cheating on you because they can’t help themselves – they didn’t take the time they needed to meet other people and just get out there before settling down, they’re stealing money because they want to make you happy, but they don’t have a job to support you.
It’s a scary thing when you know whom you want to be with for the rest of your life and most people really don’t know how to handle it. But what you two have together they know is worth something more than a relationship that might only last a month and ruin your friendship.
When someone really likes you, they’re going to want to give you their all. If they don’t have a job, they’re not in school, or they just broke up with their significant other, then a piece of them is missing that they need to fill themselves before they can give anything away to another person.
They WANT to give you their all because they know that’s what you deserve. Give yourself a little credit! They know that they’ll just end up hurting you if you were to be together right now. Their mind isn’t all about you, their mind is a mess that they need to take time to organize. And not only that, they need to know what it’s like to be on their own for a little and not be dependent on someone else.
Everyone needs time to figure out their strengths and weaknesses, so that they can figure out what they want from a person and how much they can give back. Maybe it sucks right now to not be with the person you feel so strongly you’re meant to be with, but it will happen. Maybe you need to work on yourself, too. Long story short, wrong timing is a real thing, but the right timing will come faster than you know it.
